I want to RANT : Pi**ed off with doing everything with no help from DH!!

[jac34]

I'm just realy annoyed today as DH has gone off to play golf(as he does every Sunday), and while he's out he's expecting me to clear all the garden for the Winter,paint all the fences and shed.
I do all the gardening because he hates it but,... SO DO I. I've mowed the lawn, done the borders and cut the hedges all summer and now I'm completely fed up.It looked realy cold out this morning, so I didn't fancy it, plus my DS's were nagging me to do something with them, so I just thought, Oh bugger the garden and the DS's and I have been baking instead.
Yesterday I spent the whole day clearing, cleaning and even moved a bed(alone),into the spare room as my Mum is coming to stay next week. I'd been trying to get him to help me for weeks but he always had something more important to do, so I just got fed up nagging and did it myself, which is what I always end up doing.

I just know when he comes home he'll say"Oh, you didn't do the garden then?", and if he does I think I'll kill him

Am a SAHM, when I go back to work I'll get a cleaning lady as I can't face re-training DH after doing it all for so long.

I work for local supermarket not a great job but will do till kids are a bit older.

Went from f/t stressful job with lots of travelling to complete career change working p/t from home 2 years ago. Used to nag/plead/cry/scream at DH's lack of support when f/t. Now less stressed and ask more directly (& say TY more TBH) & he does loads more even though I do have more time now. Am inclined to think maybe he feels a bit more macho and "head of household like" now (poor deluded fool)

Came on Mumsnet this morning to have a whinge about my DH and found this thread. Love the idea of taking a hammer to the dirty dishes .

Am going back to work this week and completely dreading it, mainly because I don't see how I can do all the housework etc as well as working. Does anyone else have a DH who 'helps'? That really annoys me, as it implies it is my work and he is helping out, when in fact the work is our shared responsibility, surely?

Oh, and he also has a habit of doing a couple of things (like the 'easy' dishes mentioned earlier) and then thinking he is exempt for the next five days or so. Grrrrrr!

PMSL at slug's suggestions. I will have to bear them in mind .

No i dont have a dh who helps but unlike jac34's he does not except me to do much cleaning. He does not mind living in a dirty place. He expects me to cook for him but i dont he will happy to eat outside. No training method for this type of dhs.

Sooooooooooo glad my dp isn't into sport! Such a PITA
He does like kayaking, but I have to beg him to go away and do it!

Since dd was born 5 weeks ago I've managed to keep the house clean during the week. But last weekend noticed how when dh is home so much more mess, and dispite me taking time to catch up on sleep while he's home he hadn't lifted a finger around the house. So I got really stressed and yelled at him as hv coming the next day. He id all the house work then and has helped since too, but did say it only took him 2 hours while ALL I did was play with dd. (Please transalate playong into washing, dressing, feeding, burbing and comforting)