DH:
Lies every time he thinks I won't like what he has done. It can be really small petty lies or really big ones. I literally have to catch him in the lie before he will tell the truth. His stock response to anything is' it wasn't me' or 'I didn't do it. Its like dealing with a little boy.
He never takes responsibility for his actions, he can never say sorry I shouldn't have done that. First he denies and lies, then he blames someone else (normally me) then he tries to distract the conversation away from the topic so we end up talking about something else and forget the original problem.
He doesn't seem to care about anybody else's possessions. He looks after his things, but mine and our two dd's things are constantly being lost because he can't remember what he has done with the. I spend ages searching for things. He can never put things back where they belong, he out dd's toothpaste on top of the shower unit the other day and I spent ages in the morning looking for it (he's at work so not here for the morning rush!) In the end I had to phone him (have to phone him nearly every other day to work out wheres he out something) he said he put it there because dd was messing around with, but why not put it back later? or putt it somewhere I could find it. Its so exhausting looking for things all the time. Yesterday he put the broom back in the spare room where we never go instead of in the clockroom, he said he never and dd1 did but she's 3 so I know that's not true. But like I said he lies about everything.
He can't control dd1, she is a typical 3yr old and is pushing the boundaries. If she doesn't do what he wants it ends up in them arguing and then her having a massive meltdown. No matter how much she is screaming I'm not allowed to get involved even if I can calm the situation in 2 mins. I have tried to tell him how to deal with her, told him what I do. But he seems incapable of being the adult and always ends going to her level and arguing with her - it's like listening to a pair of kids, not a father daughter. It breaks my hear to listen to her getting so upset, I know he loves her to bits but he has no idea how to be a parent IMHO. Last night it happened again, he did bedtime with dd1 while I bf'd dd2. It resulted in dd1 coming into the bedroom and telling me daddy had slapped her on the face with the flannel. I quesitoned him he said he didn't and asked dd1 why she had said that. But I don't know if I believe him.
I told him later that I couldn't live like this anymore, am I over reacting? I am sleep deprived with a 3 month old baby so could be hormonal.