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Do people actually have sex every day?

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LoopyLoopsPoopaScoop · 10/02/2011 17:32

Following the BJ thread, I was stunned to learn how often others have sex.

I'm pretty randy at the moment, being pregnant, and DH is lucky to be getting it 2-3 times a week. Normally, probably once. (When Dd was a baby, much less).

Are these people saying they do it most days really young, in new relationships, or childless? Or do I just have a very low sex drive? I honestly didn't realise poor DH's shortfall.

(btw. aged 29, together for 8 years, 1 DD, pregnant - I feel these details are probably important in working it all out)

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yogididabooboo · 10/02/2011 20:59

It is rare that we don't have sex at least once a day.

but then my youngest is 7 so we don't have the worry of sleepless nights or her walking in.

Tical · 10/02/2011 21:00

Nah, not here. Once a week-ish, on average, although some weeks we might manage it 3 or 4 times if in the mood.

On holiday in the summer when all nice and relaxed, we can definitely manage every night . For about 3 years, straddling births of both our children, we were lucky to manage it once a month.

nutkins · 10/02/2011 21:11

OMG! Everyday! 2-3 times a week if it is a good week! Sometimes a lot less. I agree with other poster quality over quantity for us and we are both happy with that - i think! And 30 mins = a quickie? What's that about?!!! A quickie for us is 2 mins when we think no one will catch us. 30 mins is a job well done in my book!

davidtennantsmistress · 10/02/2011 21:21

lol@ loopy - no just find DP really hot!

tbh I find the time when ds is in bed for 7 and I pounce on DP about 8! :o if he leaves it till a quarter past he's no hope lol.

a quicky for us is about 10 minutes, however it's been a little quicker at times. tbh I feel a little short changed sometimes doing that.

lint · 10/02/2011 21:29

You're all so lucky here - I never get any

fairtradefloozy · 10/02/2011 22:27

We just went 4 months w/o and have been together 4 years. DH stressful job so no mornings which is when he wants it and too tired in the eves. No DC and thast kind of part of the issue I think - DH thinks these things just happen when you want them to like magic (you know, the laundry fairy, the vacuum fairy).

Its sad, but we find it so hard to talk about but it makes me feel really rejected so then I don't want to be rejected again ....

Actually I have just read that back and its made me really sad. My marriage is not over, I love DH. But we do need to sort this out. Thanks inadvertently!

NorthernSky · 10/02/2011 22:27

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TobyLerone · 10/02/2011 22:51

Yes. Or at least almost every day.

I'm 33, bf is almost 25, we've been together just under a year, my children are 11 and almost 10.

Portofino · 10/02/2011 23:01

I am willing but we are generally knackered. I love holidays

QueenStromba · 10/02/2011 23:51

We've been pretty knackered this week so haven't been having any morning sex :( Although the reason we've been knackered is because we've been busy in the evening so have had to push our evening sex back a few hours which means our bedtime sex has been later too. Our first real quickie was last night when I was making dinner and realised that nobody was in and there were better things we could be doing. By the time I gave the sauce a stir, turned the heat down and got upstairs he was bollock naked on the bed! Even that was a good ten/fifteen minutes though.

MrsWajs · 11/02/2011 01:05

Hmm just now maybe twice a week (on a good week) but has been much, much less - am 29 weeks pregnant with DC1 and haven't had the libido boost that many people talk about!!

Poor DP has a high sex drive and think he's been a bit lost the last few months!

Pre-pregnancy - up to 5 times a week but mostly on account of ttc!

And prior to that probably more regularly as we were still in the first year of our relationship!

I'm 28 DP is 26 and been together 2 and a bit years and he has a DC from previous relationship.

bettyswollocks16 · 11/02/2011 01:19

Are these people saying they do it most days really young, in new relationships, or childless? Or do I just have a very low sex drive? I honestly didn't realise poor DH's shortfall

I was on that thread, I'm 42 with a lad of 19, I want my DH every day, he wants me, we sort each other out suitably!

SulkySullenDame · 11/02/2011 01:26

I don't. Some do. Horses for courses

BitOfFun · 11/02/2011 01:33

Pretty much every day here- 5 years together, three kids between us, one rather demanding with SN, but it's a welcome stress relief, tbh. I don't feel obliged or anything, and we don't have a schedule, but that's probably how it averages out.

Why am I telling you this again?

poshsinglemum · 11/02/2011 06:06

With my new dp. Yes. I just want to eat him!

StellaRose11 · 11/02/2011 06:48

mid 20s, partner much older. He only feels in the mood once every fortnight or so, well he was sexually abused as a child so it's very hard for him. I would ideally want it everyday if given other circumstances.

StellaRose11 · 11/02/2011 06:48

Forgot to add, child 17 month old.

noodle69 · 11/02/2011 08:03

We have sex about 4 times a week and I sleep in with my daughter nearly every night. All we do is put her down, then have sex and then I get in with her when she wakes often between 12 and 3. We dont do quickies either as we prefer long oral sessions.

We have the energy cause we are both only 26 (married 7 years).

batman47555 · 11/02/2011 08:03

before the gold hit the finger it was always every day
since then !!!!!!!!!!!!

Crawling · 11/02/2011 09:22

Before children and while pg on DS at least everyday. After ds it went down to 1 a week.
Then as he got older back to 3-4 times a week which was when we caught for DD.

DD destroyed our sex life, At 18 months she still does not sleep at night for more than 7 hours, but we were back up to 3-4a week. But now pg again and in throes of MS it has dropped to nothing . I have been bf or pg for six years now so I am amazed I have any libido But as my children have got older we have had more sex, so I imagine anyone who is worried will start having more when your DC are not so tiring and IME that depends on how hard the child is as to how long it takes.

nickelbabe · 11/02/2011 10:10

I've never had sex as much as that.

With ex, we probably did it once a week max (even when we were new)
but it was more likely to be once a month.

With DH, about onward to it
again, but this time I look forward to it
Even now, we've been married exactly 6 months, were together for a year (but only sex after a couple of months), and we're TTC, but we've done it 3 times this week (alternate days) and we were having problems the 3rd time!

nickelbabe · 11/02/2011 10:12

"
With DH, about onward to it
again, but this time I look forward to it "

now, see that doesn't make any sense, does it?
Computer's running slow.

should have been something like "with DH it's about once a week too" then the bit about looking forward to it.

jagjac · 11/02/2011 13:49

hello everyone, can i join in, i was with ex p 17 years hated sex, he was lucky if we did it once in 6 months lol,
im with a new partner now he's older than me im 30 he's 45 but flamming hell i didnt know sex could be this good :)
we been together 6 months and sex is everyday, apart from when im on or he's away. i defently cant get enough (grin)

SummerRain · 11/02/2011 13:53

a couple of times a week.... sometimes more, often less.

dp can't manage more than 3/4 nights running anyway and I'm permanetnly knackered.

inbetweener · 11/02/2011 13:53

We dont do quickies either as we prefer long oral sessions.

Oh my god that would NEVER happen in my house !

We are about 2 times a week at the moment and DH IS sulking about it to be honest. We are mid thirties, 2DD 6 and 8 and I am 17 weeks pg with number 3. I just dont want too at the moment. I could quite happily do it once a month whereas DH would prefer it every day.

Just lately DH has been constantly and I mean constantly making serious jokey requests for a blow job but I honestly cant be bothered. I know thats bad but he takes AGES and i dont want him to return the favour on me as it just makes me feel bleurgh. The thought of half an hour of that is just something I dont want to be doing.

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