Would you be OK about this?

[SaggyHairyArse]

If your DH went to help your cousins husband move house and they discussed anal sex and then went on to discuss in a detailed and intimate context their enjoyment of anal sex via MSN and email over a period of months, how OK would you be about that?

Ha ha!

Indeed!

Why do most women react to bumsex in a 'shock, horror. eugh that's disgusting' iykwim and yet men seem to either love it or if they haven't had it...want it?

Just wondering

Women tend to be the one's who have to accomodate something where it is not naturally intended to belong, there is a perfectly natural hole very close by that is far more confortable to accomodate a penis, where as men have a tight opening, and it is naughty? I suspect?

Libra, I'm a 42 year old lady and nothing surprises/shocks me where men are concerned.

FWIW a friend of mine (female) and TMI perhaps,loves it!

Is that not why double ender Ann Summers products were invented, for girlies who like all that malarkey?

LOL yes mummiehunnie it is naughty

UnderTheRadar2212 I'm 40 and yes I agree, nothing surprises me either hee hee!!

Don't want to hijack this thread so I'll not go on too much, but in the right relationship and with lots of love.....

SHA - sorry you are having to deal with this - having just got rid of him you'd think the hassle would be limited to issues with the kids wouldn't you I feel even more sorry for your cousin :( She's due in March and they have had all kinds of other problems it sounds like she'd be best to kick him to the kerb now! Poor girl :(

In fact, it would be better all around, if she kicks him to the kerb and other than the contact with the kids - they'll be out of your family.

[Another day, when this isn't so raw, you really do need to read through your posts and see all the arse/shit comments - if you can be objective it's quite funny!]

"Many lads I know go on about it, whilst joking about with their mates 'does your missus take it up the arse?' ha ha ha' etc."

The I suggest that you get to know some decent grown up men who don't behave like juvenile 15 year olds. You think that sort of disrespectful male behaviour is normal? Sheesh.

Mal, I was by that too, but was just too bloody tired of it all to comment

Sometimes MN makes me think there are loads of like-minded women out there, who demand and expect respect from their menfolk

Then sometimes I just think there are a lot of women who excuse utterly fuckwitted juvenile behaviour from men with the excuse that "boys will be boys"

we have a looooong way to go < sigh >

LOL CICSF at the arse/shit comments! Having reread, my posts are peppered with those words. I hold my hands up to being a bit rough around the edges

Doesn't mean you're 'rough', SHA, bottom-related things were probably on your mind somewhat ...

Cheers IGA!

I asked my bro and his husband about this on MSN last night, they laughed and said bi for sure.

I asked my husband if he emails work colleagues/family,in detail over months about our sexual antics and his prefrences, he dosen't I know that.

I also know that the men he works with are all older than 18, so they don't talk about their "missus" like that. They just don't. I know for a fact my husband would never, ever disrespect me like that in public, that's not normal behviour for men, it is for utter idiots though.

Hope you've given your cousin a link to your thread, SHA!

SHA - I don't think it means you are rough around the edges (well, , no rougher than me ) I just thought it was amusing how your brain was clearly thinking along those lines as you posted :)

It's like when you are with 'religious' people you end up saying things like 'Jesus really?' 'Oh my God' - things you might not normally much... the brain is complex

I really feel for your cousin :( Sounds like she's put up with enough from him already with other things and that it's time to kick him to the kerb - bloody horrible when she's pregnant though :(

Chipping - hooray, it's normal... I always do the Oh God and Jesus thing. Very embarrassing.

Hmm, anyway - you say they already have problems and then here he is messaging some bloke about bum sex for months until it gets 'heavy'. Could the two facts be related??? A bit like when blokes get really vile to their wife or partner when they are feeling guilty about shagging away from home?

I did send her the link to the thread actually!

I have said she can stay with me and get her sorted here but she lives an hour or so away and has a child at school.

If I told you what she has tolerated and tried to be supportive about, especially over the last 2 years, you would think she was a saint. He has fucked up in many, many ways and deceived her repeatedly. I have always given him the benefit of the doubt because there has been mitigating circumstances but what was uncovered yesterday is deviant (and I am not antibumsex) and just proves that both men lack moral judgement.

I hope she wakes up and smells the coffee or even that he did and stopped acting like a prize cock. She deserves better.

She does deserve much, much, much better and although kicking him out now would be bloody hard, it would be much better to get sorted with the idea of raising the kids on her own etc before she has the new baby and is sleep deprived etc - then it will be really hard to tell him to fuck off :(

Saggy's cousin... I hope you are reading this and become a MN regular (maybe you are already??) - you'll find a lot of support here no matter what you decide to do. But I really hope you find the courage to say 'enough is enough - and I've had enough'.

:-)

Saggy - how have things been the past few days?