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Would you be OK about this?

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SaggyHairyArse · 07/02/2011 11:53

If your DH went to help your cousins husband move house and they discussed anal sex and then went on to discuss in a detailed and intimate context their enjoyment of anal sex via MSN and email over a period of months, how OK would you be about that?

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stewmaker · 07/02/2011 18:27

I meant 'yes' I would be ok about this

AnyFucker · 07/02/2011 18:50

stew...for months ? Hmm

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SaggyHairyArse · 07/02/2011 18:56

From July to January, exchanging pornos and 'talking' about what floated their boats and beating one off???

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AnyFucker · 07/02/2011 19:06

yuk

exchanging porno's ?

are they 15 years old ?

I asked my DH if he and his mates talk about all the details of their sex lives once. He has no reason to lie to me. He said "no, why would I, it's private ?" and looked at me like Hmm

emmyloopsylou · 07/02/2011 19:06

Eugh they are sexting one another basically. I reckon they swing both ways.

I sometimes may mention in passing something sexual to a friend, they may to me. We don't sit there writing to each other for months, titillating each other, having a wank.

Eughhhhhhh no.

KikiJane · 07/02/2011 19:30

Wow. This is neither sexting nor any kind of intimation that they might be gay.

mummiehunnie · 07/02/2011 20:02

I also think they swing both ways, and have probably been together a few times in rl!

Did you and your exdh use to partake in as?

I would be concerned if made a porno to share with the cousins dh if you have.

Malificence · 07/02/2011 20:02

It's very definitely a method of egging each other on for sexual gratification though.

There's something really icky about two supposedly hetero blokes messaging each other in this way.

BluddyMoFo · 07/02/2011 20:03

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emmyloopsylou · 07/02/2011 20:06

Kiki, I said swing both ways = bi. Not gay massive difference.

AnyFucker · 07/02/2011 20:09

ah, I dunno if he's gay/bi/curious

a massive twat, yes, for sure

and certainly nursing a ridicilously-juvenile porn addiction

what a catch, eh ?

thisisyesterday · 07/02/2011 20:12

have they e-mailed/spoken about OTHER things as well? or is this the only thing they ever contact each other about?

cos i think that makes a difference
and how many e-mails/chats? once a week? once a month? more? less?

i mean, i can imagine chatting about sex with friends, and it coming up in conversation more than once, or us bringing the subject up perhaos.. but that would be among other more general conversation, not the sole topic

bubblewrapped · 07/02/2011 20:29

how on earth do you know the content of these emails?

AnyFucker · 07/02/2011 20:33

BW...perhaps OP's poor SIL has shown them to her ?

thisisyesterday · 07/02/2011 20:39

that too

ENormaSnob · 07/02/2011 20:55

I find it bizzare.

Ewwww I wonder if they wank over each others messages Hmm

KikiJane · 07/02/2011 21:14

Thanks, emmyloopsylou, but I am fully aware of the difference.

emmyloopsylou · 07/02/2011 21:17

Well when you referred to my comment, it seemed like you didn't.

I wouldn't have suggested he was gay.

Wow. This is neither sexting nor any kind of intimation that they might be gay

KikiJane · 07/02/2011 21:22

Have you read the rest of the thread? Various people have suggested that. But again, thanks for the clarification.

YankNCock · 07/02/2011 21:23

I wouldn't assume they were gay, just really fucking boring if they can carry on a several-months-long conversation about cocks going in arses.

bubblewrapped · 07/02/2011 21:24

Actually.. the more I think about this, (not that I really want to give it too much thought).. it is very very odd. The only people I have heard of, who would discuss this sort of thing at length would be perverts and paedophiles. Sorry, but that is the only people I have ever read about who enjoy having these type of conversations.

The average bloke might jokingly say to his mate down the pub "yeah watched a great porno last night, wanna borrow it?" but no way would they have prolonged detailed email conversation about it.. that is just sick really.

KikiJane · 07/02/2011 21:24

What YankNCock said.

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SaggyHairyArse · 07/02/2011 21:33

My cousin found the messages and confronted her DH, she then called me and told me and I spoke to her husband then too, I then called my ex and asked him to clarify and my cousin then texted him as well. So the info is 'out there'.

Everyones comments pretty much mirror my thoughts, LOL.

thisisyesterday: Nope, pretty much their entire communications have been about bumsex. Prior to this revelation they have only seen each other half a dozen times.

bubblewrapped: My thoughts exactly about loke down pub talk.

YanknCock: Quite!

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C0FFEE · 07/02/2011 21:35

Yes Odd, but if the OP is separated from him and has a BF (have I read this right) I suggest it has nothing to do with her.

KikiJane · 07/02/2011 21:37

Good point, well made, C0FFEE