Is it shallow to go for men because they earn a lot of money?

[poshsinglemum]

I am pondering if I have been aiming too low on the old dating market. In the past I have mostly dated men without degrees and who aren't that well off. I find other nice qualities in them but I am wondering if I should start looking men with better careers and more intellectual prowess/cash.

I know that this is completely shallow but then intelligent, ambitious men turn me on. In the past I have gone for ''a bit of rough'' but of course this hasn't worked in the long run.
I don't think money is the be all and end all but it does help. I also value a kind, gentle, lovely man who won't cheat.

Did you guys consider your partner's job when decising to commit?

Who says it would be that money the single parent is using? What about the single parent's own wages....?

:o @ Trillian

of course it's shallow

if you go after someone because of their money then your relationship will always be based on a power imbalance

wanting someone to be smart, ambitious, interesting is different.

But that is very different from degrees, jobs or income.

Also important is fun, kind, decent

Hi all. Thanks for your replies. I am not interested in money mainly. In the past I have always gone for the poorer, nicer men rather than the arrogant alpha males.

I want to earn my own money. I think that intelligence is a muct for me and that dosn't necessarily mean having a degree. I admire men who are interested in the world and other people rather than men who just have a pay poacket./ Thanks for clearing things up in my head. Mabe I havn't been going afetr the wrong men after all!