DP is 20. It is his first full time job since dropping out of uni. He works more than 12 hours a day. leaves the house at 9am and is sometimes back as late as midnight! He only gets Sundays off.
He doesn't get an hourly wage either. By making him "self employed" he only gets paid if he signs up customers to npower. He goes door to door and gets £40 for everyone he signs up. His target is two a day. BUT he has been working there a month and last week he sold nothing, and this week he has only sold two all week. He is making no money! and I never see him, even though we live together. I work weekends to pay for my uni costs.
I asked him the other day where he saw himself in a years time and he said still working at this job. I said that he doesn't make any money and he says that it is character and skill building!
So I said how about five years time and he said he wants to do this job forever!
Before he dropped out we had set out our life plan, graduate 2012, work and save for two/three years, start TTC 2015. I have always wanted to be a young mum and he has always supported this idea.
But now I am worried. I can't bring a child up with an almost completely absent DP. I thought he would get a 9-5 job. This job is not practical for family life! How do I make him see this.
I don't want to nag or be the one who made him quit his favourite job. I want him to make his own decision but I wish he would wake up from this dream he seems to be in!
When I was growing up my dad travelled to two or three countries a week and I never saw him, I always told myself I never wanted this for my kids.
I feel in a bit of a pickle!