want more cuddles and kisses

[Rorogeorge]

Got over a few hurdles these past weeks thanks to all who helped by the way.
DH being much nicer in general, asking about my day, helping with kids/housework etc. I have a feeling sex is on the cards but I need to be in an affectionate place first- we are not very tactile with each other and I fear we have got out of the habit. He is very loving during sex, just not the rest of the time. How can I change this pattern?? I really miss cuddling up on the sofa and holding hands. :(

Well you can go first with just touching him when you pass him, on the shoulder, anywhere really. Just to let him know you're there and that you know he's there. DP and I never pass by each other without reaching out. This was my habit at first but DP soon got into it. Hugging and kissing when you leave in the morning and see each other at the end of the day. Hold on to that hug for a few seconds longer so that it's not just a split second hug and peck.
Anything really just to get yourselves started. It might feel a bit contrived at first but it can become a habit.
Do you go to bed at the same time?

Yes we do usually go to bed at the same time, and do cuddle in bed actually, but not during the day or in public..

can you start to change things on your own? Can you touch him as you go by if cuddling during the day feels like too much too soon?

Those are great ideas nje :)

I will give it a go! Any other ideas?