I've cheated

[horriblesecret]

I have slept with my best friends dh. we were together before them but i finished it. things have always been close between us. I have been married for 8 years and have a dd.

my dh is amazing but low sex drive makes me feel unattractive, unwanted etc.

I am in a mess, i don't know what to do

Glad you cancelled this afternoon.

Talk to your husband. Tell him exactly how you feel.

Does he need to speak to a GP if there is a problem or can you go to sex councilling?

If you love him and want to stay married to him see if you can come to a mutual arrangement where you can get no strings sex elsewhere if you have to.

Be clear if you can do this though so you don't get emotionally involved.

Your other option is to separate from your husband and look for a new partner if that is necessary.

Whatever you do, NEVER EVER sleep with your friends husband. Don't even contemplate it. This is the lowest of the low. It is not the answer. You will end up ruining two families. If he think so little of the woman he vowed to love, cherish and be married to how do you really think he will think of you apart from an easy pair of legs to spread?

Be honest with your husband and talk.

Horriblesecret please do not let yourself do this. I have been the best friend and it kills. She probably already feels something isn't quite right, but is not sure what. She will eventually put two and two together and see what is happening

You can make the choice to walk away, she can't.