Update from me!

[refmum]

For those that remember me,i thought i'd post an update.

Brief history-My husband had become violent towards objects in the home when he was angry,he threw something at me and kicked our bedroom door in when i'd locked myself away from him during an argument. We were both unhappy in the marriage and i didn't want our children witnessing his outbursts.

Christmas day was really good (it was strangely good to be honest?)then boxing not so good.

He had to work for a week (he has to sleep there)we had no contact until nearly the end of the week when he text me to say he thought we should separate,he came home after his week away at work and packed his stuff,we are now seperate and life is so much better,we communicate well at the moment and i am looking for a house to rent.

Just thought it would be nice to let you all know,i had some great advice from mnetters and i am really glad i found this site x

Thanks for the update

I think you have both done the right thing

Yes, thanks for coming back, i remember you. It does sound like the right thing to do, and your renewed strength shines out your post. All the best, and here's to your Happy New Home (when you find it)

Good for you, I remember feeling terrified for you.

Your post sounds so positive!

Thanks...yes,things were getting worse quickly,i knew i had to change things,in the end i didn't have to do the hard bit because he did! must admit it made things a whole lot easier.

I feel like a huge weight has been lifted,have sorted my money (he cleared out money from our joint account)and have applied for social housing,also looking for private rentals,have a few months til we get evicted from our forces accomodation.

My boys are happy,they see their dad when he has days off,i knew we'd be happier parenting seperately.

I'm still concerened he may have some tricks up his sleeve but at least i can distance myself now.

Refmum, if you could find the time, your experience would help others when they post in similar situations

It crops up time and time again, I am very sorry to say

:)

What AF said, too.

AF and ItsGraceAgain-I'd be glad to help anyone going through similar situation,thanks for the suggestion.

Refmum, have you thought about the Services Cotswold Centre in Corsham? You said you were in the SW? We were put there as a whole family on return from overseas and it's a lovely little place. Am no good at links, but this is the description:

"Lying in beautiful countryside mid way between Bath and Chippeham, just off the M4 outside Corsham, the Centre provides temporary housing for families of serving personnel from all three services. Whether you are in transit between postings, retiring, have welfare housing issues or have been the subject of emergency evacuation from overseas, the Centre offers a secure, comfortable and affordable place to stay. In the case of estranged families and those leaving the Services, the family is to include at least one child."