The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The New Year Wine Offers!

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Hello all.

We are the Brave Babes. We're on the Battle Bus, travelling around sobriety and going day by day, hour by hour, through the detox hell of not drinking, cutting down or sometimes even not.

Come say hi. We won't bite.

No doubt one of us has been where you are now......

It's fine. No judging, no nasty jibes, just us, the BBs.

Come meet the others..................

hi indie - I have also had that - cravings for drinks that I would not normally touch with a bargepole!!
Busy making soup and chilli now.

EXp is still here, and is doing my head in - I think that he is waiting for me to breakdown and that is so not going to happen -ARSEHOLE, sorry but really needed to get that out!!
He wants so much stuff, i think that he would take the lot if I let him, and let me and the kids sleep on the floor!!!
Not happening.

Hope everyone else is having a more relaxing afternoon.

Then let him take it Bafana, if it gets him out of your life and shows him that you don't care. When my mum finally left my dad, he made us leave in what we were wearing and what we could carry. No furniture, crockery, cutlery, bedding etc. All 5 of us ended up in a one-bed flat sleeping on the floor until a steady stream of wonderful people started turning up with hand-me downs and ofers of furniture and stuff and we picked up from there. it was still better tha living with him
thank God SS didn't find out, we'd all have been taken into care. As it was, we survived thanks to our wonderful mother and a lot of help from very kind people out there.
Sounds like you've done the hard stuff already - he can take the material stuff but he can no longer have you. You win, girl!

Hi everyone, its been a while, I stopped posting here as I didn't feel ready to battle the booze I feel its time now tho so tonight I'm gonna finish what's left and make a break for it tomoz night :)
How's everyone been doing?

Thanks demented, you are right. It is only material possessions. I have the impOrtant things - love and family

my mum is awesomely fab
got herself a tatt on her ankle for her 60th birtday just because she could, and was off round the world (again) with her backpack just a year or two ago, including camping in the Namibian desert under the stars.
Shared a tent with my elderly uncle and his long-term male partner (who could make Quentin Crisp look butch) and emailed us, her jaw-dropped offspring, with the phrase "oh, well , gives a whole new meaning to the queens of the desert!"
No offence meant to anyone, just a typical comment from a Northern lady of advanced years who takes anyone and anything in her stride!
She recently gave a home to a Zimbabwean man fleeing for his life - very long story, he was legit in this country but had come unstuck - on the basis it was a for a night or two only. he lived there for a year in the end, before he was rehoused. When asked why she had done it she said "Well, I'll help anyone who's down and out, regardless of race, colour or creed." She then spoiled this by adding "and i love the way the village gossips are shocked that I'm shacked up with a black man".
She's something else!

apologies for any gender/race offence taken - none meant.

Thanks :) nope no plan, just gonna cold turkey it I think.

ha! ma!, dont apologise for your mum!, she sounds fantastic!

im getting ready to go out (drag myself out to spend the evening with a bunch of people i dont like!) and just realised it is now 8 months since i had a drink!

i never never ever never thought i could do this! , im so bloody pleased with myself!!

i have to thank all you wonderful babes, you have helped me soooo much - thank you!

anyway, dh calling, must go, see you later!

What lovely posts

Ma I want to be your just like your mum when I'm her age, would give my DCs a shock, that's for sure! My DCs are very conservative, I feel, in their outlook.

My best friend, incidentially a friend of Dorothy, is having a really hard time at the mo, and we don't feel perspectives have changed that much, she still feels a need to keep it quiet, for her job, even for most of her friends . In my world at work gay blokes are fine, lovely....but, women....

We had a smile the other day about something someone had written, backs against the wall, etc, if I wouldn't jump on a thoroughly unfanciable person, why would anyone think someone who fancied the same sex do it?

" a friend of Dorothy" never heard that expression before

Hi all,
It sounds a positive place on the bus tonight. I'm shattered, had a bit of a spiritual awakening today, and today I am not drinking. So am... hanging in there just now.

Ma a girl who like girls.

Margaret Thatcher is still alive, no?
I'd never heard of any of those phrases (too young? just naive?!)

I figured it out. Just hadn't heard it before.

Just down from the bath,

I do prefer the filmstar connotation Indie

We have family connections to the films, and Herbert was a name of one of the people in films in DH's family!
Maybe that would explain why my endeavours aren't successeding

Hi everyone !!

I'm on day 6 and no longer suffering of withdrawal symptoms, I had the odd craving yesterday but it didnt last long ! Hope you are also doing well !

Well done Lady. I got hammered yesterday. No reason at all. Just because the booze was there. Woke up to find I've got a massive bruise. :(
Feel typically ashamed, guilty and worthless today and I deserve it.

"Would be just lovely to have a glass of champagne."

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If you drink like most of us on here then I bet it wouldn't. I bet it would destroy the occasion for you and everyone else present.

Stop torturing yourself with a fantasy.

Luci

"I got hammered yesterday. No reason at all. Just because the booze was there."

Would your attitude be the same if someone left some crack cocaine or heroin lying about in your house?

If not, then you know it's a lie.

The sad thing is, you DON'T deserve this. No one does.

Why not be nice to yourself and stop doing it?

Unless, of course, you believe that next time will be different ...

Morning everyone.

I had quite a few to drink yesterday although I did only have on eon Saturday and not as much as usual on my friday night out.

Am determined to do better during the week this week though.

Hope your OK Bafana, I went through something very similular to you a few years ago, my XH even took half of the salt as he went through the food cupboards. It does get better.

Your Mum sounds amazing Ma

morning all!!

luci,luci, luci! what are we going to do with you? - come on my girl!, you know what you want, you what you have to do to get it!, you arent stupid!, try and try and again!

today im having lunch with my db (the policeman!) , looking forward to that a lot, i dont see him very often and i miss him!

this evening is the ladies aa meeting, looking forward to that too!, i find that the 'shares' are incredibly deep and personal and i get so much from it!

anyway, must be off babes

see you later!