4 weeks before i have our baby and he is cheating

[mummyworries]

what shall i do. i have a 4 yr old little girl and a baby du in 4 weeks. i found out that for the past couple of months he has been talking to a woman on the internet on a sex site and not only that been going round a so called mates house who is a woman for coffee but insists they are friends. if only friends why not tell me?? help

how long have you been together?

5 and a half years

Confront him and find out exactly what is going on. Ask him how serious his relationship is with you and the family and ask what he thinks he is playing at.

If your suspicions are confirmed then you need to make a decision as to whether you still want him in your life.

I would seriously try my best to get all information regarding this friendship/relationship ASAP

Badger him, if you have to, you need find out whats going on and quickly.

Assess, if it damaging to your relationship and in what way, and decide on how you move forward, either together or separate
I would try to do this all before the baby is born

goodluck, hope things sort themselves out.

Aren't you the poster who recently started a thread about her partner's secret porn addiction? So sorry you are going through this at a time when you are at your most vulnerable. Find as much incontrovertible evidence as you can, because if you are that poster, I think he will lie to you.

yes i am . i just dont know what to do, if we stay together and they continue being friends ,i cant stop him can i .i have spoken to her and seeing her friday to talk this all through and i don think they were just friends i just dont know why he lied about it

Why are you talking to HER? What good could possibly come out of that?
She is not cheating on you, HE is. You need to talk to him.

God you poor thing, what a nightmare for you.
You seem paralysed because of the imminent baby, understandably.
I disagree that you have to 'find out, and sort out' before baby's born, that's so much pressure on you when your head's all over the place.
I do however agree that you are wasting your time speaking to the 'OW' but again I think you can't see the wood for the trees.
I have to be honest, it doesn't sound like your relationship stands much of a chance if he is lying, cheating and a prolific porn user.
Can you tell us about your relationship in general, what is he like? How does he feel about the baby?

Your a better person than me, to met her on friday and have a chat

does he know you are meeting up with her ?

If he is innocently meeting her as a friend then why is he hiding it from you?

If it is innocent then he should have mentioned it. He is sneaking around and meeting up with a woman in her home for a coffee without telling you. What's that all about then? Under what circumstances would you sneak around meeting a man for a coffee without telling him?

So sorry for you but it doesn't sound like he is an honest person.

Sorry, just re read your op. WTF is he doing talking to women on a sex site. Why is he on a sex site? He is looking for sex, why else would he be on there.

OMG what a dirtbag, you need to get rid of him.