Question about sex and an erm, helping hand?

[FeatherInMyCat]

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DH have only ever been together, great sexlife when we manage to find the time!

I can only orgasm with clitoral stimulation though meaning if we are having sex and he is going to come I need to have a hand down there myself to help it along.

Is this normal,

sometimes I wonder if he feels bad that i always have to do that?

I can orgasm through oral sex no problem.

If you have been together for sometime, I guess he is okay with it as he hasn't commented on you 'helping yourself'.

What you might think about is getting a cock ring with a mini vibrator which will stimulate your clitoris while having intercourse.

Try a you-on-top position where you can angle yourself against him (get him semi-sat up for the best results) and rock back and forth grind against him for the required stimulation - it takes a bit of practice but it's fab when you get the hang of it .

Or, invest in a bullet type vibe that can be used in any position.

And yes, it's normal, most women are the same.

Is that not pointing it out even more though?

We have lots of toys and do all sorts of other stuff too, we're not so vanilla but I suppose if its never been mentioned by him then its not a problem is it?

Normal. Not many women can orgasm through penetration I believe. Most need clitoral stimulation etc He shouldn't feel bad! Porn tends to show women climaxing from penetration alone much more frequently than is common in RL.

Thanks mal, If i go ontop i always have a hand down there too

I really don't think i could get the required erm movememnt from rubbing alone.

Plus am heavily pregnant ATM and don't want to squash him, haha!

Why can't he rub you himself whilst. he's thrusting?

Normal. It's a minority of women who can orgasm from penetration alone. Don't let anyone make you feel inadequate for being in the majority.

Yes, you're entirely normal. Whatever works for the two of you is fine, but a lot of people make clitoral stimulation part of their foreplay (or make intercourse into afterplay, if you want to put it like that).