Now divorced..thanks MNs

[SpiritualKnot]

Well, my divorce came through just before Xmas. Married 20 years. Remember being on here back in March 2010 giving reasons why my husband had left me..saying there wasn't another woman etc. MNs saying yes there probably was...and yes there was and my world just crashed down around me.

In a much happier place now, hard realisation that the marriage had been really crap for more years than I care to admit. I just normalised everything. He could have hit me over the head with a shovel and I'd still have thought that was normal.

So much happier now. Went back up North over Xmas and had a date with a guy I met at a school reunion in August, lovely time. Just a peck on the cheek at the end of the evening, but that's about all I'm ready for.He phoned New Years Eve and we brought in the New Year together on the phone, watching the fireworks on BBC1...more fun than it sounds!

Thanks to all MNers who helped me through and a Happy New Year to all!!!!

xxxx

Happy New Year to you....hope 2011 is a good one for you .

Well done YOU - here's to year of happy cheek pecking

Aw, that's lovely. What a great start to 2011.

great happy story! Glad its working out for you

That sounds rally lovely, how wonderful :) I hope 2011 is much brighter and more beautiful for you. I'm sure it will be.

Happy New Year to you too!

Have a fantastic 2011 and thank you for telling us that it is possible to change your life

well done you so glad you are in a happy place at the end of it all, i am about 6 months behind you and hoping to feel the same soon xx

Good Luck SK, glad to hear that there is life at the end of this long, dark and cold tunnel xx

Happy New Year - 2011 will be your year. Well done on turning your life around.

Bright Blessings!!

Brilliant, SK. Well done! Happy New Year indeed :)

I remember your previous threads SK.

Glad you've had such a fab start to the new year. Long may it continue! Great to hear you sounding so positive :)

Hurrah! Well done, glad you've had a good start to the new year, hope 2011 just keeps getting better for you. :)

What a positive story

Here's to you, may 2011 be your year! x

Oh yes, I remember you. Glad you are in a happier situation now. All the best for 2011

SK I think your story is a powerful testimony about how it always helps to know if there was another person involved in a marriage break-up. Learning that there was an OW helped you to see your H far more clearly, because I vividly remember your original thread and your former beliefs about your H's character and values.

Good luck to you and I'm so pleased you have come out the other side.

Thanks for all the messages. Yes, knowing there was OW helped. Before then, I was actually helping him find somewhere else to live and was so worried about him.

Just chilling now, been to a pantomime with dd this afternoon, made a roast dinner for me, ds and dd and about to relax in front of the TV.

No pressures on me.

Turn 50 this year so resolution is to get in good shape for that...got 6 months to do it in!!

xxx