how to ask for something you want in bed...

[FrizzyFrazzled]

Hi there
I have name changed for this. I really want to bring spanking into the bedroom, and I am sort of sure DH would like it too, but I get FURIOUSLY embarrassed asking for things like that... we have been experimental but it's usually indicated by actions rather than words, if you know what I mean. This is something I want to actually ask for though.
I know all you mumsnetters are very savvy about this sort of thing... how do I put it to reduce going bright red and being embarrassed???
We have been together eight years, so am aware that it is ridiculous for me to feel this way.

You've just got to say, basically. Maybe watch Secretary to bring it up?

marks place and awaits for responses

buy him a beautiful spanking thingie from Coco de Mer and let him work it out for himself...he will!

Typo awaits = waits

The Secretary thing is a good idea. If he won't watch it with me (he will prob think it is a chick flick) might have to go the spanking thingie route! I wish I wasn't so bloody repressed when it comes to talking about these things... I just cringe about it. Aargh.
Why waiting for replies SA??

I really must watch The Secretary. Sounds like a good film!

I am waiting because such threads usually attract an assortment of reactions that I find interesting to read.

However, I realise I am not being helpful so my suggestions are to visit the beautifulagony website and look for spanking related videos. You have to pay to watch full videos, but the freeview ones are usually enough to cause some sort of reaction.

Failing that, you could say that so and so (a mutual friend) told you about doing it with her DH and if you describe it vividly enough, it might make him curious enough to try it.

Another suggestion is to find an erotic stories site by amateurs(xnxx is a good one), and read him one about spanking. You might not even need to read it to him, you could read it aloud whilst in bed.

I hope this helps :)

SA