Internet sex

[ExLondonGirl]

my dh said he wants us to have sex on a webcam. HELP, im not sure whether to do it. he said we could wear masks so no one recognises us. im scared but also oddly excited. surely there is no harm in it

So, no PM then? Oh well.

SA

yes, batman, I see what you mean by "own"

some interesting friends you have

SA, I actually have no idea what you are talking about

if you could untangle your last post, it might help

your showy language isn't making much sense to me

however, you seem to be able to be quite clear some of the time

Le sigh...

Le sigh...

See I think whatever floats your boat I can see why this would turn some on.

I can see why and am open to the idea as to why, I wouldn't though no way!

However my issue would be ok once in a blue moon as a "treat" sure.

But if my DH couldn't or wouldn't have sex for me for a very long time and the only time he could is living out this fantasy, I'd be mortified.

It says a lot about your realtionship tbh, and it's not good.

He has only come near you, for the first time in ages, because he can share the experince with others, cyber swinging/diggong style. Can't say I'd be filled with confidence about the future of my realtionship or self asteem if I were you.

He has only come near you when you agree to shag infront of whoever on the www, where is the intimacy in your relationship? Generally things like this, if one partner can or will only perform doing certain things it raises the bar, and becomes an issue.

Malificence, you have posted in moderate detail on other threads about how you and your H enjoy spanking, dressing up and the use of sex toys. So I am not sure where you get off on telling other people that 'normal' sex should satisfy them. Some people think that sex toys, spanking and wearing anything at all in the bedroom is evidence that you are being coerced and exploited and that your partner is an abusive wierdo. Others might happily engage in group sex but be horrified if asked to dress up in rubber for sex.
Frankly, 'normal' sex (ie penis-in-vagina, lights out, missionary position) does get boring for many people, particularly if they had very little experience before committing to a current partner. Very often in this sort of set up, one partner (often the man) is actually not very good at it ie clumsy and linear in approach, so sex becomes an unsatisfying chore. Penis-in-vagina thrusting will get you pregnant, if that's what you want, but for nearly everyone who is in an ongoing sexual relationship, the sex is mainly about things other than concieving, so a couple who want to maintain an ongoing sexual relationship need to be able to discuss, explore and experiment with different things to keep the interest alive. It's up to everyone to find their own limist and their own particular thrills. 'Normal' sex is not just a mythical concept, but a harmful one.

sgb, serious question for you

would you be happy to be with a partner who was only able to

1)get it up

2)see you as a sexual being with your own needs

when you were performing for strangers ?

and didn't go near you at any other time...

AF: IF that had been the deal at the start of the relationship I might have thought, nah, too many issues/I am quite exhibitionisitc but not a fullblown exhibitionist so I might want to do other things sometimes. However, this isn't the deal the OP is describing. WHat she talks about is a renewed interest in sex for both of them due to trying something that's both different and a bit taboo, therefore exciting.
FWIW anyone with a fullblown sexual fetish (ie something that has to be involved for them to have or enjoy sex) needs to find a partner who shares the fetish, not make it an essential part of sex with a partner who isn't interested in it.

well, it seems they both share it, so all is well then, although I acually hope I have placed a little doubt in he OP's head

I am just grateful I don't have to have a sex life like hat

each to their own

Thank you SGB for that post on Malificence?s previous contributions on the ?normal? sexual activities she engages in. Incidentally, another poster who was also vehemently opposed to the OP?s exhibitionism has in the past expressed interest in a MMF threesome. One really does wonder where they draw the line at what is ?normal? and what is ?abusive? or ?exploitative?.

Nonetheless, I hope that in the future, people will bear this in mind and not be afraid to post for fear of being harshly judged.

AF: WHy do you hope you have placed doubt in the OP's head? Does it give you a thril to think you might have made someone else feel uneasy, guilty and ashamed about her sexual activities just because they are not the same as yours?

er...surely this doesn't have to be public. Don't we all have webcams these days? I am sure I don't have an audience when I skype my friends in Oz.

I have friends that do this often ... when he's away etc and they love it. It's just a higher maintenance version of phone sex (ie. I would need a bit of make up!)

People are so reactionary on here sometimes. Saddo? Er no, just fancies his wife.

Pssst... Fizz.... the point is over there---->

Yuno, you can still follow the point of this thread?

I tip my humourously-Santa-themed hat to you.

no, sgb, not at all, you are misreading my posts

and FF, you haven't read the thread properly...this bloke doesn't fancy his wife

I just hope she thinks twice about being with a man who has shown no sexual interest in her for years but would rather exhibit her like some sort of object for the dubious pleasure of strangers

that is all

nowhere have I mentioned "shameful" or that she is disgusting

although I think her pathetic bloke is

When I said "normal", perhaps I should have used "basic" instead , people are still putting words into my mouth though .

I still stand by what I say in that if the basics aren't there, i.e. mutual desire and respect for one another, no amount of kinky stuff is going to paper over the cracks.
I think me and AF are the only ones to take notice of the fact that she said he hasn't paid her much sexual attention in years .

Anyone with an all consuming fetish needs help quite frankly, when the fetish is more important than your partner there's something very wrong, it must be thoroughly depressing to know that your partner is only interested in you as a prop to their fetish and that actually, you could be anyone as long as you are catering to their desires.
When sex is all about what you are doing rather than what you are feeling , there is a big problem imho.

Wow it's suddenly become an all consuming fetish! And there was me thinking we wanted some fun hahaha

Look, those of you whining and objecting are just coming out with the usual bog standard heteronormative crap - 'waa, waa, it must be wrong if there's any sniff of NOT MONOGAMY about it' and your definition of 'abnormal' sex is so obviously anything you don't like.

Spot on as ever SGB.

Your willingness to engage in watersports against the prevailing wind never ceases to amaze me.

No, I agree too. I wouldn't be too chuffed if my husband couldn't get it up with me at all normally, and ignored me intimately for years and was only interested if it were living out a fantasy and showing the world.

I have no issue with people pushing sexual bounderies, whatever that may be, virtually involving others, real swinging, or extra people, whatever.

Everyone likes to do different things, however I think if you are in a singular relationship like op is, and they can't have sex with you unless it's living out a fantasy. The relationship has huge issues, sometime you have to crash back to reality.

But as ever, SGB must be right and all monogamists are evil............yawn.

once agin sbg brings he "not monogamy" ace card ino the mix

nowhere did Mal or I (or since, emmy) start "whining" about "not monogamy"

however, the couple in the OP are actually in a monogamous relationship...or did you just overlook that fact, sgb ?

merry xmas mincepiegirl
batty sighning off for hols
xxx

Ben...take your nose from out of sgb's arse

it is most unbecoming, and makes you look like an arsehole with an embarassing crush