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ExLondonGirl · 19/12/2010 12:25

my dh said he wants us to have sex on a webcam. HELP, im not sure whether to do it. he said we could wear masks so no one recognises us. im scared but also oddly excited. surely there is no harm in it

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StuffingGoldBrass · 19/12/2010 22:24

OP, whatever you and your H look like, other people will find you appealing. Not everyone, but then you don't find everyone appealing either.
It's just a crap mundane myth that sex, particularly recrational or exhibitionistic sex, is only permissible to the young and thin and scar-free.

nogreatexpectations · 19/12/2010 23:15

Yep, there is bound to be some sad old sod of seventy who will find you appealing. Grin

SGB why do you have such a vested interest in encouraging people.

OP what if your mask slips? what if someone does keep your film out there on the web for ever more, what if, what if......... Would it not be better to just go to some club where like minded people hang out. You can be an exhibitionis without the fear that your film will still be doing the rounds in a few years.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 19/12/2010 23:22

To be fair, I don't think sgb goes out of her way to encourage people into stuff that they weren't already interested in

I would rather see her giving sensible, experienced guidance than think some naive woman is rushing into something she has no real understanding of, and getting hurt

StuffingGoldBrass · 19/12/2010 23:33

NGE: Because it's a bit of a shame for people to live their lives not doing things they would like to do on the grounds that stupid mundanes tell them 'Waaah, you mustn't be NOT NORMAL! People will stop liking you and it might rain hammers if you ever step outside heteromongamy and passive consumerism.'

SkylineDrifter · 19/12/2010 23:53

If you want to do it, then do it. There is tons of porn stuff out there on the internet, yours will be just a wee tiny drop in a great big ocean and will only make the tiniest of ripples.

NemoTheRedNosedFish · 20/12/2010 08:59

If I were you OP, I'd man up, strap on and give your dp the ride of his life... warn him it might chafe, like...Wink

batman47555 · 20/12/2010 09:26

maybe he just thinks its too cold for dogging!!!!

AnotherMumOnHere · 20/12/2010 09:35

There is nothing wrong with SGB giving them sound advice.

It is far better than running them down the way you have - is this perhaps sour grapes and you are jealous you dont have the bottle to do it yourself !! ??

There are quite a few sites out there that females/males/couples can make a good sum of money from webcamming.

Go for it girl and dont let the sour grapes put you off !

AnotherMumOnHere · 20/12/2010 09:36

My last message was for NGE!

JingleBelleDameSansMerci · 20/12/2010 09:43

Well said AnotherMum.

madav · 20/12/2010 09:49

I have done this (kept my face off camera). Was more of a turn on than you think. People could comment real time too, and it was interesting reading back the comments Grin considering we were a bit busy to read them at the time....

loopylou6 · 20/12/2010 09:51

OP, you can get paid to do this you know,who said you can't mix business with pleasure Wink

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ExLondonGirl · 20/12/2010 10:39

Thanks for all your comments. I'm shopping for props today and may make my small screen debut tonight. Will let you know how it goes!

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batman47555 · 20/12/2010 10:40

Make sure the props are black and shiny, helps show the juices to full effect lol

AlistairSim · 20/12/2010 10:53

Don't tell us how it goes, show us!

I would be worried about the state of the house. Plus our house is very recognisable. Would have to do the deed in the garage, I think.

And I would have to shave my legs.

tinkertitonk · 20/12/2010 12:43

I have absolutely no advice to give but please will you post the link? You sound like an entertaining and enterprising person.

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ExLondonGirl · 20/12/2010 13:15

I will shave mine too, afterall it is Christmas

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AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 20/12/2010 15:30

ffs, they are coming out of the woodwork now

I think batman has been on the blower to his mates Xmas Hmm

SurreyAmazon · 20/12/2010 15:48

What tinkertitonk said.

Have fun!

SA

nogreatexpectations · 20/12/2010 16:01

No Sour grapes, I guess I am trying to put OP off the idea although I believe OP had already made her decision before she posted. The original post said she wanted help, as though some important decision had to be made. If you read every post op has made since you can see that this isn?t a women asking for advice. She already knew she was going to do this, so why ask?

The worst case scenario for her is that she might be recognised, hence the masks. For me I have to say my worst fear would be that some other women is made sad by a sexless, emotionless marriage where her husband would rather watch OP and co than have a real relationship and make the effort to maintain any intimacy in his marriage.

Watching Porn is like eating hamburgers it?s for lazy people, it doesn?t require effort, it doesn?t require any investment.

A recent study into the effects of pornography on the developing brains of teenage boys found that pornography altered the way they relate to women. It was found that over half of the boys who had regularly watched porn had no desire to form close relationships.

That?s why a sensible, liberated and intelligent women might opt to frolic in front of other like minded people but not buy into the porn culture .

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ExLondonGirl · 20/12/2010 16:12

Fair point, I was pretty much decided. Just looking for second opinions, and most seem to be yes

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nogreatexpectations · 20/12/2010 16:34

OP, so do it if that's what you want. You only need look on the net to see plenty of others do, why gauge the opinion of mumsnet.

Its a little like the debate that skinny models fuel the rise of anorexia. Is Porn fueling the rise of broken sexless marriages. Would you like your husband to prefer porn to having sex with you?

I have two sons and I hope to g-d they never get tuned into porn. I actually want them to respect women and form long and lasting, emotionally rewarding relationships. Porn undermines this IMO

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ExLondonGirl · 20/12/2010 22:52

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Eurostar · 21/12/2010 00:07

"
Watching Porn is like eating hamburgers it?s for lazy people, it doesn?t require effort, it doesn?t require any investment. "

I like that line!

I read this at first that OP H wanted them to solo webcam each other from different rooms or something for foreplay. Now I understand that it is cyber dogging. People will probably just be laughing at you won't they?

SurreyAmazon · 21/12/2010 01:49

Apologies, OP, if you were looking for second opinions, then my post was not useful. Eh, let's see, I agree with SGB and would encourage you to experiment, if you are genuinely curious. I would personally love to this, but sadly live under the constant paranoid fear that my profession will find out and I would get struck off. If I sound paranoid its with good reason. I know of a person in a different profession who was struck off after a member of the public happened to walk by his house, look through the window and see him masturbating.

So I am a teeny bit jealous that you even have the option of considering it.

Ironically, in the pagan version of Christmas, men used to gather and have bacchanalian orgies of food, and live sex with other men. How the times have changed!

SA