Dh and i have been together for 10 years. We have 2 dc.
Since I got pregnant for the first time over 7 years ago, sex has been an issue. While I was pregnant it hurt so I didn't want to do it, but dh insisted and starting talking about how I didn't love him anymore and all I wanted was his sperm etc.
Fast forward to today and the frequency is not how dh would like it to be but I manage about once every 10 days. My libido has never returned to what it used to be.
Often now I do it just to keep the peace even though I'm tired (I'm always tired - dd still waking up and coming into bed with me).
Whenever he tries and is not successful (and he then feels rejected and humiliated) he proceeds to freeze me out until I apologise. This happens every few months. I know I resent him for ruining my 1st pregnancy and I wonder if it's possible that this has affected how I feel about him in general and why I don't feel like having sex with him much?
I have no idea if this all makes sense - I'm in the middle of a freeze out and feeling pretty bad. Please tell me what you think.... thank you