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Anyone Happily Married?????

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brownbunny · 25/09/2005 19:44

Just felt that I'd like to start a thread for anyone that is happily married and madly in love with their DH/DP's! I wouldn't swap my DH for the world we've been together 13yrs have one DS age 6 and are in as much love now as ever! surely i'm not the only one who is happy?

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Gobbledigook · 25/09/2005 20:02

Me - married 6 yrs, together for 9. 3 ds's aged 4.5, nearly 3 and 13 months.

Some of the threads on here make me feel particularly fortunate.

QueenOfQuotes · 25/09/2005 20:02

Me - known him for just under 7yrs, and been married for just under 6 (and DS1 has just turned 5 ).

We do sleep on arguments, only because they all tend to happen in the eveing, and 'practice' has proved (for us) that it only makes it worse as we tend to end up arguing again - still being worked up from the last one/

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brownbunny · 25/09/2005 20:03

Welshmum i agree! very stressful we are not going through it again either we are just going to love and enjoy what we have already got!
My recipe!
Sharing everything, talking and listening, never going to bed on an arguement and lots of I love yous and big hugs! very sickly but it works!

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cutekids · 25/09/2005 20:03

YEAH! been together since june 1988 and celebrate our 11th wedding anniversay in dec!

happymerryberries · 25/09/2005 20:04

Oh yes, we tell each other 'I love you' every day....and tell the kids too. I know some people find that ott, but we don't

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brownbunny · 25/09/2005 20:05

Gobbledigook! you've got your hands full with that brood! good to hear you still have time and energy for love!

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munz · 25/09/2005 20:05

yep, been together 6 years this year, married 2.5 years, expecting our first in march, had one m/c one infadelity and 18 months of living 250 miles apart.

he's my heart and soul, the voice in my head keeping me honest! lol (unless christpher eccleston turns up!)

SherlockLGJ · 25/09/2005 20:06

Married for 13 years, together for 16, love each other dearly, but we still manage to annoy each other. But always, always, cuddle up to go to sleep, and cuddle up when the alarm goes off.

Soppy, I know...............................

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brownbunny · 25/09/2005 20:08

HMB that not OTT that lovely! you can never tell anyone too many times that you love them! my DS hears it all the time too from both of us and is a very gentle affectionate loving lad!

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ja9 · 25/09/2005 20:10

very happy. 6 yrs married, 8 yrs together.

happymerryberries · 25/09/2005 20:10

We have even kept all the letters we sent each other during gulf war 1. Both of us wrote every day. We hadn't been married that long then and it was way before we had the kids.

If the kids read them after we have gone they will blush!

All our other corrispondence has been on the net

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brownbunny · 25/09/2005 20:11

LOL munz! one or two people around might trade mine in for too! given the chance! just kidding!

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berolina · 25/09/2005 20:11

It's our 5th wedding anniversary today
(celebrated at lunchtime with a lovely long lunch and walk in park afterwards)
and we are so so very happy.
with you hmb on the telling each other we love each other every day!
Arguments, bumpy patches, ability to utterly infuriate each other, yes - but the bottom line is absolute trust, affection, companionship, desire and never ever wanting to be without each other.

Gobbledigook · 25/09/2005 20:12

We say it all the time.

The one thing I think keeps us going is talking - it's a cliche but it's true. If one of us is upset about something we say 'right, I want to talk to you about this, this is why I was upset, this is how you made me feel...' - we have proper discussions about how we feel about something so that there is no misunderstanding. Like most women, I used to expect him to be psychic and would get upset if he couldn't work it out. Now I realise you just have to spell it out sometimes - men can be a bit thick!

I think the fact that we communicate so well is one of the key reasons it's working - I can see how with 3 small kids you could easily drift apart and not talk - it does take a degree of effort when you are permanently exhausted!

Gobbledigook · 25/09/2005 20:12

hmb - we've still got print outs of emails we sent when we met at work!! They are for noone elses eyes either! Really, really funny to read back!!

welshmum · 25/09/2005 20:13

You're so right gobbledigook - talking is crucial
Hi Bero - nice to see you on this thread too

KBear · 25/09/2005 20:13

Known him since we were five, been together 15 years, married for 13.

Ups and downs but we've made it so far. Sometimes life generally is so stressful but you have to have a laugh together and hug alot and that will hold it together!
(I hope).

munz · 25/09/2005 20:14

ah I joke about it but honestly if another man looked at me (famous or not) I wouldn't know what to do! lol, seriously, my DH is the only one who pushed back at me when I pushed him away, the only one who cared enough to stick around when I was a real cow to him. The only one I couldn't bloody well get rid of! he he.

HBM- we've done the same - didn't write every day when he was in iraq but near enough, and were always on MSN/emailing, so have kept al of those.

NomDePlume · 25/09/2005 20:14

My DH annoys the tits off me frequently (and vice-versa), but we still say (and mean) 'I love you' every day. I can honestly say that there's no-one else I'd rather irritate

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brownbunny · 25/09/2005 20:18

known my husband since we were five too have some very embarrasing childhood photos!
Glad to see love and romance is alive and kicking on mumsnet!
Goobledigook you are so right talking is definately the key we talk all the time about every thing and the more we do the closer we get he is my other half without him i am incomplete.

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QueenOfQuotes · 25/09/2005 20:20

"he only one who cared enough to stick around when I was a real cow to him. "

oh yes that's us - in the first month of our relationship we argued EVERY day - massive arguments, with me walking out slamming the door behind me, swearing at him etc etc, telling him I hated him (I didn't really). after just 6 weeks together (with arguing every day) he proposed!!!

The arguing 'slowed down' after about 1 1/2yrs of being together. But still happened infrequently (probably about one or two times a month) until last year - and since then I think we've had 2 big arguments - and they were both over silly little things and we made up very soon afterwards.

WideWebWitch · 25/09/2005 20:26

We haven't got around to getting married yet but have been together 5 years, have a dd and my ds from my first marriage and we are really happy so I class myself as happily married.

munz · 25/09/2005 20:28

lol - no it wasn't that - i'd been v v badly treated b4 DH v badly in relationship[s and was basically running away from my past etc and had mega issues/walls etc.. DH was the only one who cared enough to stick around and try to break them down even when I moved home he still tried and was always there.

tbh he's the only persona I ever went out of that didn't think what can we get from this, his views were and always have been how can I make her happy etc... (know's the phrase yes dear v well!) lol. althou we do argue etc, but don't go to sleep on an arguement. can't really imagion being with anyone else.

ellceeell · 25/09/2005 20:29

Known each other for 30 years, married for 23 yrs, and my heart still flips when I see him. Corny, but true!

Rhubarb · 25/09/2005 20:29

Sometimes yes, sometimes we're on the verge of divorce. We're quite volatile really, but when it's good it's very good.

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