Woah there! I hate being misquoted.
You absolutely did NOT choose this for you and her. The whole point of alcoholism is that you DON'T have a choice. Once you pick up your first drink you are pretty much done for.
The only choice you have is this - and making it in itself won't guarantee it will happen. This will involve effort.
If you are ready to make that effort then here is the choice you need to make.
First of all, what and how much do you drink in a week and how is it spread out? It won't actually change the decision but might change how you go about carrying it out.
Pick a time within 24 hours of now that you are going to stop. Not cut down - not alternate drinks with water - not keep a bloody drinks diary - not all the shit that the NHS told you to do years ago and you never quite managed - STOP.
When you stop, you are going to make a decision to stop until you go to bed that night. i.e. if you choose to do it immediately you are saying you are not going to drink for the rest of the day; if you choose the minute you wake up tomorrow you are saying that, all day tomorrow, you are not going to drink.
Right. Your priority then is NOT to drink, WHATEVER IT TAKES. That means don't buy any drink; throw away any drink you already have; any drink in the house that belongs to someone else you are going to hide in the garage or loft; if necessary, you are not going to leave the house till the off-licence shuts tomorrow night. If you want a drink, have a cup of tea; watch a film; kick a box; have a coke; eat an entire box of chocolates; take your child to the playground; you are going to do absolutely ANYTHING except have a drink.
My advice would then be to go to an AA meeting and, whether you speak or not, just stay till the end; but I know that AA is not for everyone. So, if you don't go to AA, you need to speak to someone else about how you are feeling. You can do that on here; you can phone a friend; you can phone the Samaritans; you can phone AA without actually attending; you can talk to a dead relative. But TALK and then LISTEN. If it can be with someone else who has had a run-in with drink, so much the better.
When you get to the end of the day without having a drink, you are going to try to feel grateful for the fact. If you are religious, pray and say thank you; if you are not, just say out load, "thank FUCK for that." Then go to bed.
The day afterwards you will wake up feeling flu-like. But you are now free if you want to. You can make the same decision again. And again.
One day at a time YOU CAN BEAT THIS - as long as you don't make the mistake of thinking that the fact that you've stopped means you're "cured". Always remember - you stopped BECAUSE you couldn't control it.