The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Players and Supporters Bus

[venusandmars]

Hi I am venus and I am an alcoholic.

Thanks to the first thread by Jesuswhatnow I have not had a drink for a long time.

There are lots of us on here, please lurk, post, whatever does it for you. If you are worried about how much you drink and your inability to stop when you want to, then someone on here can probably understand.

So, what is the plan of attack Zany? And so what if you have baggage. We all have bagges of sorts don't we?

I think that the idea of you inviting him over (and his DD's) for a bite to eat is great and a good place to start.

Get to know him, arrange playdates for the DD's, you offer to babysit, he returns the favour maybe? That sort of thing and then you'll get a feel for how is on a day-to-day basis instead of the pressure of a 'date' as such.

Just call me Cilla!

I phoned AA.

They're going to have someone here within the hour.

Help help help.

afternoon all.
not much to report here noteven good luck and stick with it.
not that I can talk. champagne tasting last night, but didn't disgrace myself, left at 930 in a good state. had a few glasses but nothing silly and didn't stay and carry on as I would have done previously. so it's progress.
school christmas fayre tonight and luckily the wine will be awful so less likely to knock it back. DH will be driving so even less likely to knock it back.

Could quite happily murder both parents today though -they are staying with us and are literally treating it like a holiday - sitting in our guest cottage reading all afternoon - not even sitting with the boys - it breaks my heart.
anyway, keep going everyone and congrats to mouse and nemo!

noteven - I'm here.

Well done for calling AA. How much have you had to drink so far today?

Thanks Cilla . Thats what I thought that I would get to know him as friends first and see how it goes. My XP was a "little" huge head messer upper if that makes sense so I do have self asteem and trust issues so seen as this guy is so nice and our DD's are friends I didn't want to mess things up, hopefully I won't always feel so bad about myself.

Also I don't think he wants a relationship although I'm not taking it personally for once as he has said me and my family are Fab. Sigh...

In the meantime I do have a date tonight with someone who is OK but makes me laugh alot.

God I sound like a hussy now , I'm really not

Thank you bianca

Keep going!!!! Each glass you don't drink is better than the last time you did!! You are slowly taking control back.

Well done Noteven for phoning them. How do you feel

Zany - You're only a hussy if you sleep with them all!

You are going out, with a man, for food/cinema etc to get out of the house and enjoy yourself.

How is that being a hussy? And let's role reverse for a mo..... blokes never get called that if they have two dates in a week do they?

So frightened and so so so stupid

noteven

Talk to us. Tell us why you are frightened? Not stupid though, because you are not.

The lady who phoned was amazing.

She is going to ring back in an hour. I am drunk and very very sad. DD is snuggled and watching a penguin DVD. I just want to be better. For my DD above all things.

noteven I am here too. I am so proud that you have called AA. Just be open-minded and listen to them.

I can't stop crying :(

noteven you're drunk because you're an alcoholic and not because you're a bad person. This might sound weird but you are doing really, really well. Why? Because you have come out of denial and admitted your problem and you are reaching out for help. Well done lovely.

noteven let it all out sweetheart. We (and AA) are here for you.

And try to drink some water. The booze (and the crying ) will be dehydrating you x

You shouldn't feel stupid Noteven this thread is full of people who have been or who are in the same position as you. You are making the first big steps to not be in that position anymore. You should feel proud of that.

Mouse god no I wouldn't sleep with them and your right, not even dating the neighbour

thanks Mouse and Red

She wanted me to find a babysitter. I don't think I can. I am desperate to stop.

noteven think, think, think. What about your mum? Is she near? A fellow mum from nursery? A neighbour you know and trust? Please try.

zany am following your posts too!

Mum 250 miles away and terminally ill.
Nursery is work based.
I need to phone my DP, don't I?

noteven YES, phone him now. This is a crisis. You are ill and you need help. If you broke your leg and needed to get to hospital he would have to come home. It's basically the same thing. CALL HIM NOW.

noteven well done, you have taken an incredible step. Of course you're frightened - it's a huge thing to do. But it's for you. I was terrified when I went to my first meeting, but left feeling uplifted and positive. It's really not as bad as you might think it is .

Do you think one of the reasons you're crying is because, deep down, you're relieved?

If you can't get a babysitter, just talk to the woman, it will help. One step at a time.

I really need help and a hug. How have I coped for years with my lovely DD??