Been seeing a wonderful guy for about 6 weeks now. He's very kind, affectionate, considerate, sex is the best I've ever had... but he's not very engaged I suppose is the best way I can put it. Like, he never really asks me things about me or what I'm thinking, we banter and get on great but don't really scratch the surface - hopes dreams, etc.
Anyway, saw him last night, was great, he cooked for me, we made love twice, watched a movie, etc. But this morning when we were getting ready together for work, it was really subtle but I felt like he wasn't as affectionate as usual, he felt a bit detached. It sounds silly but normally as I'm brushing my teeth he'd come and hug me from behind or as we're passing each other in the doorway he'll give me a quick squeeze but there was none of that this morning. I felt like I was making all the moves and being a bit clingy. As we were leaving his flat for work, we normally kiss at the gates and agree the next date that we'll see each other. We'd already spoken about meeting on Thursday so he kissed me really passionately as usual but then was all, "So I'll see you Thursday then, PROBABLY, as I just remembered I've got to take my car to the garage..." blah blah blah.
So I'm thinking 'probably'?! It's gone from the previous night's conversation of definitely seeing each other on Thursday to now probably seeing me Thursday? What does that mean? Sounds like he's setting himself up for a get out clause nearer the time right? If I don't see him on Thursday then I won't see him for ages because he's taking his kids on holiday all of next week.
Also, yesterday he was going on about how stressed he was about being so disorganised and how he had so much to do around the house, packing for the holiday, plus he's got a business trip this week, etc, etc. And the whole time I'm thinking 'is this a way of him saying he's too busy to see me?'
Am I just being really selfish and insecure? Or does it sound to you like he's cooling off and is trying to signal to me he wants some space?
I've been very good, I'm not the sort of person who texts him 10 times a day or anything, I guess I just feel really insecure because I don't know where I stand and we're about to have a long period apart and I know I'll really miss him but I actually don't really have any idea how he feels about me.
What would you do? Should I see whether he does in fact bail on me on Thursday or should I call him before then and talk to him about how I'm feeling?
Sorry this is long.