tell me about your great men.

[booyhoo]

i am seeing a lot of threads about men taht aren't so great. men that aren't treating their partners how they should be. i ended my relationship with such a man in august and i really do want to meet a great man, a man who is deserving of what i am. but all these threads are chipping away at any hope that such a man exists. at the minute i find myself saying "thank god i am single" when in actual fact i don't want to be single, not for lack of decent men anyway.

They do exist. Just nobody starts a thread saying how great their DP is for fear of sounding smug. Mine is lovely, I'm very happy, he is too, so he tells me. We have shit times but its never because of us making each other unhappy just because what life has dealt us in other ways.

Makes me sad these threads too of people unhappy and being treated badly. It isn't standard. It's just highlighted because they are the ones needing advice.

Hope you find a great man soon.

Every so often someone comes along and starts a thread like this and I get the chance to say in public how FANTASTIC dp is. Generous, funny, loving, fair, supportive, honest, kind, manly, I could go on for ever.

Keep kissing those frogs - one is a handsome prince, really.

yes, this is the stuff i want to hear, also, if they have brothers can i have their numbers?

mj he sounds wonderful, so selfless. the bit that struck me in your post is when you said "has forbidden me from returning full time as he knows I would be unhappy". he realy cares for you and what will make you happy. i don't want to drone on about my ex but i could always tell when he was discussing anything big or small, he was always considering what would be his best options and what would leave him in the best position rather than us or, shock horror, just me.

thanks oldenough, that has made me laugh. i don't know why but i haven't really been looking for anyone, sort of leaving it up to fate (it always happens when you least expect it sort of thing) but your post has reminded me that it does no harm to give fate a helping hand. will be wearing friendly approachable smile tomorrow!!

DH and I went through a horrible time this year. He was abusive and angry after MIL died and I thought our marriage would end.

I've since been diagnosed with depression and he has been an absolute rock. I have my lovely husband back.

So no, he is not perfect but he is perfect for me and I'm glad I didn't give up on him, as he has really looked after me.

Ahh! I don't often get a chance to say how much I love DH to the world but this is one of them!

He is always the gentleman. He has never called me a name or shouted at me in our time together, although we have had cross words. He always thinks about me and the family before he commits to other plans and every so often will organise a surprise just for me. He is a FAB lover and my best friend and he always makes the effort with every one he meets, a very smiley bloke.

However he is not a walkover and although he lets me have my way most of the time if he is passionately against something he will tell me, firmly. (Quite sexy actually!) He is very protective of the children and I in a comfortable way and every so often I will wake up after an unintended lie in only to find he has taken the kids out for the morning and wakes me up with breakfast in bed.

After being a single parent for many, many years I gave up ever finding my mr right and although we had a shaky start with my insecurities he pursued me and I gave it a shot.

To any woman out there who says there is no such thing as Mr right, you're wrong!

Do I sound smug yet?

Mine is pretty good. he's not romantic in the least, but he does things that show he cares- eg when I work late I come to home to the kids all fed, bathed, in PJ's, had stories, and the kitchen cleaned and the whole house hoovered. He doesn't expect thanks- he knows he likes to come home to same when he has worked late, so he returns the favour.

Has a very wicked sense of humour, and I really enjoy his company (most of the time!)

I love that when my personal shit hits the fan he is usually there to sort it out/ cry on.

mj I, alone, could keep samsonite in business i have that much baggage.

also never watched casualty (don't watch it, is charlie still in it?)

My DH is, generally lovely but I would like to also mention my dad - he is a kind, thoughtful and entertaining man who always did his (more than)fair share of the housework.

no you don't sound smug, i am really loving this thread. i think we should have a dedicated "listen to how great my man/woman is thread" so that you can all (and me when i find him ) shout about them without feeling guilty or without fear of being told we are smug.

yep, dad's count aswell

I kissed an awful lot of frogs too booyhoo. Then I met dh, in the local, when i had green paint on my hair and overalls on

He is wonderful, tall, dark, handsome, kind, sexy, caring, a brilliant father, surprises me with little things, remembers every throwaway remark and reminds me in humour, really listens to me, loves his mother despite knowing her faults, would go without to ensure ds and I have everything we need/want and in fact, when i asked him for hints on what to get for his birthday, told me he has everything he wants right here.

Ok, am making myself a little queasy, he can stink out the bathroom

They really do arrive when you stop looking you know.

I love my DH so much after everything he has done for me from romancing me in such a wonderful way to giving me a beautiful DD then unconditionally supporting me through PND.

He has done so much that I can't remember a happier time in my entire life.

I've got to go ladies.

mj i haven't read your post yet and i alrady know it is going to make me cry. yes i am a huge sop.

Mine is fabulous. He has stuck by me through 11 years of illness, was my absolute rock when my mum died, is a fab dad to DS and over the past two years has driven countless thousands of miles getting me to and from my dad when he was critically ill (twice) in hospital 90 miles away, because my own problems mean I can't drive any more. All while holding down a demanding full-time job. And he cooks, and at this very moment he is washing up. I am incredibly blessed.

ha mj, taking teh kids and dog out, giving you a G&t and tehn cooking dinner IS romantic to me

My dad is a wonderful man. His own father was rubbish and so he decided to only have kids if he could be the best dad ever. And he is :). He is funny, silly, kind, and has a lovely soothing way about him that makes him the perfect person to deal with everything from a dog with a sore foot, to a little girl with tangles in her hair that need combing out gently, to a grown-up daughter with a few problems of her own. He works full time, has done up the house my parents live in, and has another part time job (self-employed) to fit around this as well as a lot of volunteering etc.

My brother is also great. He has had a hard time of it over the years, but is consistently gentle, kind, considerate and always remembers everyone's birthdays. He really wants to meet the right woman and be blissfully happy and have babies with her, and live a life of listening to classic rock and watching films with plenty of pratfalls.

DP is wonderful: handsome, considerate, ethical, loyal, kind, loving and interested in everything. And he makes me breakfast in bed. And then gets back into bed with me :o

booyou - my hubby is great but you def wouldnt want his brother!

firt time I have posted about hubby!!!!

I have a wonderful DH

it would bore you to tears if I listed all the ways he is wonderful

all his friends are brilliant too

he is just an ordinary man though, there are lots of them out there, I promise