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tell me about your great men.

114 replies

booyhoo · 08/11/2010 23:33

i am seeing a lot of threads about men taht aren't so great. men that aren't treating their partners how they should be. i ended my relationship with such a man in august and i really do want to meet a great man, a man who is deserving of what i am. but all these threads are chipping away at any hope that such a man exists. at the minute i find myself saying "thank god i am single" when in actual fact i don't want to be single, not for lack of decent men anyway.

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nemofish · 09/11/2010 16:34

sorry changed my mind he's being a cock today

hopefully he will redeem himself soon

nob!

AnyFucker · 09/11/2010 16:37

Grin @ nemo

mine was a cock at the weekend...he got pissed and made an arse of himself

ninah · 09/11/2010 16:57

er
scatches head
nope, nothing, sorry

booyhoo · 09/11/2010 17:48

Grin @ nemo. he's allowed an off day!

ninah, nothing? not just one thing?

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Malificence · 09/11/2010 17:59

Another great husband here - we're just back from a few days of Xmas shopping/shagging/eating/drinking on a spa break in Bath and he hasn't complained once about my 3 day search for a handbag to match my new boots. Grin
Nor did he moan about my constant demands for cake, cups of tea and toilet stops - he's fab.

AnyFucker · 09/11/2010 19:48

sounds great, mal

TooBlessed · 09/11/2010 21:26

what a great thread,i do have a fantastic husband,he is my best friend too.

His is funny and can laugh at the silliest things,
He is patient and never get angry unless pushed too far[by his mother]
He is warm and sends flowers to his mum on her birthday every year,his identical twin never seem to remember his own mother's birthday,
He stood up to his mum when she didn't want him to marry me coz i was poor and the wrong colour and not educated(PHD) and i have just a sec diploma,
He is rather good on the emotional side and can tell a mile away if i have had a bad day or not
He always tells me the truth about my clothes,if something looks good he will say,if something doesn't suit he will say'why don't you try this one instead,i think it agrees with so and so,,
When i was pregnant,i would get a serious full body massage,my feet were in heaven,,
When i had our DD,he stayed at home for two weeks to help,woke up every night with me,sometimes would let me sleep while he fed the baby,
Every saturday is mine to do as i wish,he takes the baby out the whole day,,damn you bad norwegian winter!
He calls me Pearl because he says when he met me,he knew i was special,,
For the past two years i have been attending evening classes to learn norwegian and continued after the baby,he looks after her
He has said i don't have to go back to work but i feel after a year and a half i will want to go back and he will support me anyway.
For months after giving birth sex was not on my mind,all he did was hug and cuddle,no pressure,,only love,and he is one hot ,romantic man,

i have to say in the begginning i had terrible thoughts,that he would die,or the baby would,because it he was too good to be true,but then realised that this was my time,i come from a country that is on its knees as we speak,a family that was so poor,all i knew was pain,sorrow and heartache,so i embraced this blessing with an open heart and mind,and just live one day at a time and hope for the best,who knows what tomorrow brings,which is why its important to be grateful for each day,,sorry too long,had to get it off my chest.

i am thankful that i got him,it could have been his twin brother then i wouldn't be on this thread,thank God...

booyhoo · 09/11/2010 22:42

so i don't want his brother's number then tooblessed? Grin

mal i am jealous of your shagfest shopping/spa weekend.

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bethylou · 09/11/2010 22:52

This is a lovely opportunity to say why DH is great, as I've only ever commented on his foibles before!
So..

  1. He gets up in the night as often as I ask him to to see to DS1 and 2. DS2 is 8.5 months and he's still getting up when required, even though he's working and I'm a SAHM at the mo.
  2. He instructs me to take breaks during the day!
  3. He does half the evening chores with me.
  4. He admits to quite liking Mumsnet (and doesn't moan when he can't access his fantasy football because I'm hogging the laptop!
  5. He gives me big cuddles and makes sure I'm okay before leaving for work.
  6. He is happy for me to go to the gym while he looks after the boys at the weekend (in the same wya that he goes to play football).
  7. He is so laid back and it's good for me as it helps me to chill out (a bit)!
  8. He tells me I'm gorgeous, even when I'm carrying baby weight/wearing a catheter bag/feeling blue.
  9. He buys me flowers for no particular reason (other than loving me).
10. He's a great Daddy, as well as a DH.

p.s. If I could spare him for a bit, I'd lend him to some of the people on here who need a decent man in their lives but I'm not sure I could manage without him!! Smile

WhenKevinMetSadie · 09/11/2010 23:17

booy, thanks for giving me the opportunity to blow DH's trumpet.

He is fab generally, but tonight I love him a little bit more! I had a total hissy-fit with him whilst getting the kids ready for bed (after he had cleared up after making dinner & helped getting the kids ready Blush) as we had decided to give the DTs bottles of ebm rather than me bf them, & I couldn't find the bottles. After we got DTs fed & settled, I was able to go & read DD her bedtime story (which I usually miss out on as I'm bf the DTs). When I came out from her room, he had finished tidying up, lit a yummy scented candle & poured two glasses of wine.

I know I am very lucky, so off to show him how much I appreciate him!

(He has 2 brothers, but both are married. Will let you know if any of his friends are available though, since I'm not a mllion miles away from you Wink)

booyhoo · 09/11/2010 23:30

(are we still meeting on the 19th?)

yes, off you go to 'show' him how much you appreciate him Wink

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primrose22 · 10/11/2010 14:30

My dp is 12 years younger than me and was only in his mid 20's when he got into a relationship with me. I had 2 young children, a parent with a serious illness and was facing the constant threat of losing my home Sad
He has constantly and cheerfully cared for me, loved me and helped me back on my feet. He loves me dc and puts them and me way before his own needs.
He is smart, hard working, gorgeous and unbelievably thoughtful. Just last week we decided we both deserved a little treat. I got myself a coat, he spent his share on a bag for me Smile
We had a tough start but a few years down the line he is still the same lovely man who was there for me, embarking a new relationship with someone who was quite frankly in a right old state!
Incidentally life is now much rosier. My Dad is recovering and thanks to my dp, we still have a home. He is wonderful, I love him madly.
This is a lovely thread. I haven't had a chance to read all of it but at some point shall try!

MUHAHAHADascheese · 10/11/2010 14:38

I have a lovely DP who I'm marrying (in case you hadn't noticed) next July.

He's been one of my closest friends for 20 years and my DP for just over 3.

He was the single person in the world I didn't have to be 'superwoman' for, never felt the need. He told me when we got together that it was his mission to make sure I could feel safe to put the 'superwoman' cape away for good.

He makes me laugh, he makes me safe, he knows I get grumpy when I'm tired and thinks I'm lovely when I'm cross about something. He is clever, quick and brave and would protect me and littlemad with his life if needed.

He doesn't mind never getting a word in edgeways and just accepts everything I am completely.

He makes me want to be the best person I ca be.

He thinks he's the luckiest man in the world because I love him.

I could also wax lyrical about my lovely Dad and my brother in Law. I am surrounded by good men, I wish the good ones got a better press too.

Don't give up.

TryingtoQuit · 10/11/2010 14:52

My DP of 16yrs is forgetful on a monumental scale, spends too much time 'fiddling about' in his studio, doesn't do helpful things instinctualy, BUT he's a wonderful father who makes us all laugh, he is kind and gentle and works hard.

These are some of the things I think about when faced with a full washing machine that finished it's cycle hours before I get in or a bin that overflowing....

I wouldn't have it any other way, he's my best friend.

There's sure to be someone out there for you Booyhoo Wink

TooBlessed · 10/11/2010 18:51

booyhoo no i would not even give you his number because not only does he like anything that remotely resembles a woman,,including lady boys,,he is scared of commitment,,however my DH has a wonderful friend but he is jobless and he talks too much,,and if you do not tell him how beautiful he looks then you have no relationship:o

booyhoo · 10/11/2010 19:21

jobless and talks too much i wouldn't have a problem with but if he's better looking than me it's a non-starter!! (and if he's not then i couldn't lie and tell him he is)Grin

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TDaDa · 10/11/2010 21:11

one of my colleagues whom i chat to...really great guy funny sharp good musician romantic down to earth good dad...his wife had an affair and they broke......he was gonna get back with her but she is pissing around so he is dating again...great guy though

tummysgottogo · 10/11/2010 21:12

oh some women do it too. breaks my heart.

happiestblonde · 10/11/2010 21:14

I love my DP more than anything; he makes me a better person, he makes me so happy I spend most my time laughing no matter what else is going on. As silly as it sounds I do believe he is my best friend, soul mate and other half. There are wonderful men out there - I was a mess before we met and now life is just wonderful.

moulesvinrouge · 10/11/2010 21:42

Hello! I am a first time poster so hello all! I never thought I'd be lucky enough to meet my DP, he is ace, super kind and thoughtful and gorgeous - but I felt just like you OP and never thought I'd meet a top geezer but he just fell in my lap - and yours will too :)

midlandsmumof4 · 11/11/2010 00:00

Relationships are a bit like lego..sometimes you need to knock em down and start again with the same base block Grin.

DancingIceDragons · 11/11/2010 00:42

Grin mmof4

This thread has made me both :o and :(
there are so many great men out there and you are all so lucky. I read the thread with the wish that it would make me feel hopeful of meeting Mr right for me. Instead I am just rather then glad other people are happy and I am probably best on my own with ds.

technically it could be a comb of meds and lack of sleep talking. But right now give me a choice of training or a man. then training is going to win. Not sure there is room in my heart for both. Smile

i have had a lovely 5 1/2 hours of training over the last two days and have the prospect of extra and seriously intensive stuff training weekend, whilst ds is away. So i am happy. Grin

long may the men folk keep making their women happy.

NotACompleterFinis · 11/11/2010 01:27

My DH is amazing and away tonight hence my drifting on Mumsnet at this late hour - I miss him when he's away :-( He does laundry, hoovering, shopping, cleaning, DIY, mowing, prepares lunch, makes tea every morning, loads unloads dishwasher - actually do I do anything apart from cook? He also buys me flowers takes me out for meals, is a sensitive dad and step dad - helping out with homework and personal issues with the kids. Loves spending time with me, loves me for who I am. This doesn't adequately express how amazing he is - I feel like the luckiest woman in the world. But it looks like many of us feel the same way so - yes there are amazing men out there for us all - keep looking to find the one for you.

booyhoo · 11/11/2010 12:07

aww. I'm really glad i started this thread so all these great men get their trumpet blown for them, er, so to speak Grin.

it really does make me feel more positive to hear about them and i see it is doing the same for others aswell so keep it coming!!

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Witchcat · 11/11/2010 13:12

I love my Husband i think he is great because

  1. he is a gentleman - he opens doors for me and has old fastioned values
  2. He respects me as a person
  3. he has an open mind and loves my quiceyness (sp?)
  4. he has never called me names and never gets angry with me 5)when i lost it and had PND and i kicked him out and filled for devoice he still loved me, supported me and give me no pressure on our relationship - he would have help me get better and just stayed friends if i wanted but he wanted me to get better first
  5. He tells me he loves me everyday
  6. he spent his life savings on our wedding
  7. he is a great dad
  8. when son was 2 weeks old he sleeped on sofa with son for 2 weeks so i could get some sleep and then got up and went to full time work
  9. he helps with hovering, washing up and some housework
  10. he works really hard to support our family
  11. he loves even thou i hate his mum and dad
  12. he loves me even when i'm gumpy and try to saboutage (sp?) our relationship
  13. we like the same tv shows and music and like spending time together and having our friends around
  14. He likes trying new things with me like tai chi
  15. he likes me for me
  16. he puts up with my weired family

P.S. we are still together and are not devoice and we are happy and he is my lover and my best friend and i know i can trust him.

He also has a cute bum and is kinky in and great in bed ( and he tells his friends that im good in the sack too!)