The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Carry On Past The Homebrew In The Shed!

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Hello, I'm Mouse.

Welcome to the Brave Babes Bus. You can get on at any point in the journey, there is plenty of room, it's free to ride and there is always someone who will be along to hold your hand over the speedbumps!

So, no matter where you are in your quest to quit the booze, join us for support, advice and a fair few laughs along the way

There is no judging, no cliques, just real poster with real problems being real and honest!

Come and meet the others.....

Here is the previous thread where you can read all of the threads so far, including JWN's original thread and the reason we are all here.

Don't worry about the typos - they are practically compulsory here!

Mosy of us here share your experience of shame and embarrassment over drink related things - plus of course alcohol is a depressant so if you have been drinking heavily recently then it will affect your mood. I know it sounds obvious but you can't change what is done but you can change what you do just now.

Have you spoken with your DH about how you are feeling - or is that not something you would want to do just now?

Don't regret posting loopy it shows that you are trying to make changes instead of burying your head in the sand which is the far easier thing to do.
Is it safe enough to go for a walk just now?
Just asking 'cause if it is, then why not go?
xx

No coz DH drinks too

And crying is OK.....no shame in that - it can really help relieve tension.xxx

OK - so no midnight stroll then.

Loopy I'm in no position to dish out sympathy & don't be ashamed's.

Does you DH drink? Mine goes to the pub to drink & then falls asleep on the sofa after I have cooked dinner & then I drink all the wine in the house because I am fucking lonely & then I d stupid things in the middle of the night & he gets to take the high ground & slept off hangover in the morning.

Tonight we bought a take way that is still sitting on the worktop because he threw a strop because I wasn't drinking & apparently "taking the moral high grund because I shamed myself on wednesday night"

White: you wouldn't laugh if you could see my lashes I look like Dame Edna!!

DH has just woken up on the sofa & taken one look at my wine glass & gone to bed...

It's not safe really, I won't go. What is wrong with me I am only 28 why am I like this? I'm gonna ask for these messages to be deleted coz I don't wanna see them in the morning I'm such a fuck up

Loopy you're not a fuck up - you're having a bad time
You're making the time and effort to think about what you are doing and are trying to make some changes and sometimes you don't make the choices that are best for you....but you keep trying and that's all any of us are doing here.

TA things sound complicated between you and Dh, particularly with regard to alcohol. Will you be able to have a conversation when neither of you is drinking?

TA and Loopy I'm off to bed now. Please take care of yourselves tonight and come back tomorrow. The bus has infinite seats - take your pick, take strength and take on Sunday with as much support as you need.
Loopy you might want to have a drink of water.

Thanks witch nice to hear.

Night whitenapteen enjoy the extra hour in bed.

Witchety night to you too.

JWN As you are the OP can I just say WELL DONE and FANTASTIC - 5 months!

loopy what happened tonight?

Night Whitenapteen & thankyou

Witchety we stopped talking a long while ago & you are right there are soo many more problems.

I went out for dinner with a group of school mums (I never drink more than one or two glasses when out but will get home before midnight to catch myself up before bed)

One mum was telling us about her terrible marriage problems (I said nothing) & another mum kept telling her to leave him.

HOW?
With 3 children as a sahm, no family, no job, no equity in the house & plenty of debts?

I don't get it.

My DH loves me but not us as a family.
I think I drink to much to take that away & I think he uses the above statement to justify his actions.

Bloody hell I'm going - this is very addictive

Maybe time to head bed TA - but be shore to hop back on board tomorrow.
x

As I said - typos are compulsory!!

hi! i. am. exhausted.!, my lovley little dn have drained my life blood!!, i have cackled, bobed, done face painting, screamed, carved pumpkins, danced, fed them all, screamed some more!, they have now all gone home with their mummys and daddys to bedfordshire, thank the lord!!! [hgrin]

TA, you sound very down my love!!, please stick around, it would be lovely to have you aboard!!

LOOPY, leave the posts where they are!!, i dont mean to sound harsh or bossy, the thing is, i find if i read my first ones now and again it reinforces why im staying sober, i know its not a nice thing to look back on but i think thats kind of the point!

im sorry but i HAVE to go to bed, my head is killing me!, night lovley babes!!see you in the morning!!

I hope you have all gone to bed, I did log off & then whilst finishing my glas bottle I had a thought that I wanted to share (before I forgot it)

All I ever wanted was to have babies. It never happened & I went through hell & then met my DH.
I didn't really drink then but I fell preg VERY quickly & unlike all the other times with my ex my first DD came along then another & then another.

Thing is, my big thought for tonight through tears & actual admitance is he never wanted children & I told him I couldn't carry babies & here we are with 3 - I forced him into it.

I'm so sorry, I'm truly done in & so cross because I have now done what he expects of me & drank most all of the wine.
he is off tomorrow so will get all day to ignore me in a more superior than you way.

phew

sorry, not the best introduction...

I will go to bed now & I will come back in the morning but do feel free to ignore me if needed - I will get the hint very easily.

nightnight & thank you x

Morning all, thought it best that I get on firt today & say thank you to every one for last night.
Day 1 again for me & I will not drink tonight & I'm not cooking either & that will also be a first. Let them eat keft over chinese for sunday dinner.

DH is still in bed & I've been up with DC3 since 6.30am - 7-30 in her world. Not looking foward to another day of diry looks & tip toeing around but I do deserve it as I have been awfull but I hope not to be again but whilstI am still drinking it's not worth saying out loud..

Loopy, I hope you are ok.

P.S I lost 4 individual lashes through crying last night so that's my scary haloween face sorted out then!!!!

Sorry about the typos. Today I am blaming them on trying to type with a laptop & a 2y old on my lap & one of them jumping up & down shouting Peppa pig!!!!!

Morning thoroughly so glad that you are here. I am sure that you will find help and support.
As I said last night - the dynamics between you and your DH sound complex, and sometimes just 'speaking' here can help to make sense of things.
I am still unclear why you deserve the dirty looks and in what way you have been awful? It sounds like you are being very hard on yourself.

Are your other 2 little ones still sleeping or have you got all 3 on the go now?