help me

[mugface]

what would you do if for whatever reason you hadn't slept with dh for a month, he was very annoyed about it and said some hurtful stuff to you.
Then next day he says he's going upstairs to wait for you to come and get dressed in front of him(your downstairs in pj's)
you mutter that he'll have a long wait as you are confused and still upset.
Then an hour or so later when he has gone back downstairs you pick up your clothes to dress only to find he has had a w**nk all over your knickers.
i am so wound up i can hardly breathe, please help.

I would go out and get P**d.

OMG, I am so sorry for you mugface, this is unbelievable.

Rub them in his face?

Sorry, that is awful, I certainly advocate the going out and getting pissed option but if you feel it is too early to drink (surely not!) then I would just get out and away for a bit.

hmmm.

poo in his shoes!

id tell his mom,and his friends , and his boss and publicly humiliate him, grubby little tosser.

hmmmm, im beginning to wonder.......

not again.

omg you don't mean you think i am a troll do you?
thats all i need

I posted yesterday and changed my name to mugface.
thinking about it there wasn't much point really. he'd surely know it was about him wouldn't he!
My usual name is peaceandlight..hey it can't get any worse.

sorry, really.

pay no attention to me, didnt realise that you had recently changed your name.

apology accepted??

Well mugface, this subject matter from someone who's only posted twice, I don't think you can blame us for being suspicious! But apologies if you're genuine, obv. I don't have any advice though, sorry.

yeah

i would like to add however, is this kind of thing normal from him ( not the wa**ing obviously- im sure all men do that.) But the general shitty behaviour because you wont sleep with him?

www . I am genuine, although wish i wasn't!

i was peaceandlight, before that pleaserewind. been a mumsnetter ages, do a search.

i can see why you thought it, but changed my name because of the subject and dh reading it.

no offence anyway.

Ok, sorry.

I'd tell him to shove it and would be off like a dirty shirt. It's very aggressive behaviour.

yes, he has been shitty with me loads of times about it but that this morning takes the biscuit!

I offered to use my hand, iykwim
that wasn't good enough, he wanted a bj even tho he knows i don't like that or full sex, nothing else would do.

i feel kind of bullied.

is there any particular reason why you wont sleep with him? I must admit that my dp would get abit grouchy if i put a stop on it altogether.
men sort of view it as some kind of basic nescessity of living i think.

first of all is your lack of sex drive ( if that is what it is) being sorted medically? or is it just that you dont want to have sex with your dh who is a complete fckup?

if its a medical thing - then get it sorted - your missing out.

i would really really - am being serious do lucy5s idea and shit in his shoes.

i think not only is it ...cant find the word.... yuk but its disrepectful.

its degrading. how dare he. seriously this would be serious in my house - seriously big row of the year stuff when i get rid of the kids and lose the plot.

thats just rubbish - how dare he degrade you like that. how dare he.

if he is nice - usually why dont you explain to him that you need certain things before your going to have sex.

watched a programme called the sex inspectors the other day and they had to explain to a lazy arse fella that by sitting on his arse and letting the woman do everything including the baby that it was no wonder that she was knackered and not in the mood by 9pm - you cant go from shitty nappies to siren in 3.5 secs flat.

why not tell him this revalation .....if your nice to me and help me out - i will think you r great - you see for a lot of women you bave to brain fk them first instead of going behing them and grabbing their tits like a lager lout.

grrrrrrr

hope your ok btw

I would have hit the roof.

God, I'm speechless really. What a disrespectful, vile and down right disgusting thing to do.

i don't know why i don't want to have sex. I usually do it about once a month but it's really to stop this kind of thing happening i think. It's gone on so long that i don't know if it's him or theres something with me why i don't want it.
i suspect though that incidents like this are whats to blame because every time he tries it i'll find it hard to get this out of my head.

he's gone off to the pub now,leaving me with ds1 and ds2 and i don't feel like i can cope with thwm. i just want to cry.

if it wasn't for them i would leave.
but i can't bear to wreck their worlds.

i have no one for support either.

Can you take them out for a walk? A bit of distance from the house might help you to think. He has to understand that this is totally unacceptable, disrespectful behaviour and that it will alienate you.

Hello Mugface

My DP was being a bit of a idiot a few weeks ago and we were having a pretty hard time of it all.

However,I wanted to have sex and he turned round and said who would want to have sex with you (when we were arguing) I mean I am nearly due and the reason that I wanted it is because I wanted to bring on the baby. Any how we got out of each others faces for a while and had a bit of a breather.

Things are stil abit streatched but sometimes with guys it is better to leave them alone for a while and let them come to terms with themselves.

I must admit my stomach lurched when I read your post it was unbelievably neanderthal of him. But and I am not being cruel to men here but he wont be the first guy to be lead by his penis and he wont be the last, unfortunately.

Take care of yourself and hope u work things out.

i would give him a good hard kick between the legs then he wouldnt want it for a while