Mumsnet: Supportive? Or Uber-B*tches?

[bwhiskey]

POLL TIME, ladies :)

I'm having trouble deciding which of the OP's threads to post on so have gone for this one.

MN is great. But not if you are a wind-up merchant, or don't have a full grip on reality. And if you are a sensitive flower, stay off AIBU unless you want all your petals to wilt or be pulled off.

To be honest, until she ranted the only bitchy post on that thread was mine, everyone else was incredibly supportive and helpful. And I even got a fit of guilt and went back on there to say sorry for my snidy comments.

It does seem that the OP has esteem issues then - she didn't concentrate her efforts on those posts who were very supportive of her, and ranted on about 1 or 2 posts which were less than laudatory.

Perhaps at her school there are a couple of people who are lovely to her, but she can only remember/concentrate on those who have slighted her.

I think you find whatever you go looking for on here. It is pretty much anonymous, so of course, some people are going to let rip a bit more than they would do in real life, let out the inner bitch in a safe space as it were . And, em, just like in real life, a few people are just bitches.
Some people will also always act Devil's Advocate, which I think is not a bad thing at all.

I posted on here once (name changed) about a very sensitive topic and heard some stuff back that made me upset, but I got a grip of myself and realised that people's replies were not aimed at me, they had never met me, but people were just using the thread to sound off on their own agendas.

Having read your other thread OP, I think you have anger issues. People were just exploring different options of what the problem could be. Sorry if saying that makes me sad, fat and provincial.

Would def agree, GetOrf, I'm giving up on OP...Trying to be supportive but totally 'blanked'

Goodness fucking gracious, OP, you have got a bug up your arse, haven't you?

I'm fat. Wanna fight?

Ooh, annie - I'm sensing a little defensiveness here. You aren't by any chance provincial too? Or sad? Then you'd just need to work on the bitch bit...

God i love mn. :) :)

there is a lot of collect sense.

admittably a lot of complete twaddle but goodness the analytical ability of the collective is amazing.

Anyone got a magic want so i can mysteriously get better and go training, i am going crazy stuck doing nothing but lie down and try to breathe. I want to go play :( still it is friday, might even catch the mischief for a change

OP i want to thank you for keeping me sane this afternoon

I think I must be too sad and too fat to vote. Also I live in the north. People talk to me on the school run, though.

of course they do Acanthus. They live in the North too and cannot afford to be fussy

Of course! (I have a face that is miserable in repose, too. Do random men say to you, "Cheer up love"? Or is that a northern thing? )

I am too old to be 'love' I fear - or darlin.

I did get a couple of teenagers tell me I had a really cool car for an old woman the other day

Round here they say 'cheer up, shug'. Still grim north tho.

at Pag!

In general, I think MN is supportive to genuine people, and bitchy to twats.

Take from that whatever you like OP.

Either, I suppose. Mainly though, it's hugely entertaining.

I think Mumsnet can be a lifeline sometimes, especially Relationships and Lone Parents. The advice I have had has been amazing and empowering. There are some seriously smart and compassionate people on here.

I have seen some bitchiness and snobbery on here too but that's life isn't it and you just have to filter out the crap. Don't rise to it!

Provincial :- countrified; limited

Synonyms: bigoted, bucolic, country, hidebound, homegrown, homespun, insular, inward-looking, local, narrow, narrow-minded, parochial, pastoral, petty, rude, rural, rustic, sectarian, small-minded, small-town, uninformed, unpolished, unsophisticated.

That'd be me then. I am also quite fat.

But I am happy (most of the time)

uber butches?

Welcome to the club Coatgate!

Thank you button. Now where is my spitoon?

Posted this also on the other thread

I was thinking about this on the bus. On one hand, the OP had escaped DV (based on her limited number of other posts). This could have seriously knocked her confidence, made her overly sensitive and defensive. Though good on OP for getting away and rebuilding her life.

On the other hand, she said she was from California. Now I am not US bashing, but I have a very good friend from California. Now I had to grow to love her. She is very full on and it could be said "entitled". And very quick to judge others on their health attitudes/appearance, and to do lots of soul searching into other's motives. All the time. California is def the therapy capital of the world.

Now, like I say, I love her, but I can quite see that transported to small English town/village in her entirety, she might not go down at all well! Now OP said (in a previous post) that the Toddler group "hid" from her when she came to call. This must have been extremely hurtful, so no wonder she is very defensive about the subject.

Something obviously happened to cause this, though. Probably some small cultural difference in behaviour that she would never notice in a million years. It's a shame that she has probably run for the hills now and will never get to the bottom of what the problem is.

hang around bwhiskey, you fit right in.