Mumsnet: Supportive? Or Uber-B*tches?

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POLL TIME, ladies :)

has anyone mentioned netmums to the OP yet?

Ask Misdee or Trinity what they think...

oh you fat sad provinical lot. leave the poor OP alone.

But to be enious of someone else's child you have to, by definition, find yours lacking. Whilst that may be true later in life (eldest dc is 13) at the age of 7 she was the apple of my eye. I would assume that is true for many if not most parents?

I am very happy, quite fat but only around the bum and only a bitch occasionally.

Please show me which box I tick?

OP, a bit of both - and long may it continue. It'd be bloody boring otherwise.

MNet is a representation of society and society is sometimes overwhelmingly nice and supportive and sometimes its gives you a round smack in the face. You've just had the latter on your other post but on another day (with a different topic!) you may get the former.

OP have you actually been back to your original thread? I think you'll find, if you re-read, that most of the bitchy comments were made after you called everyone 'a load of bitches' or something like that

that is true button

you have to feel defensive about something to feel jealous really. Most people look at their 7 year olds through pink tinted glasses. because they are usually gorgeous at that age.

I have only ever experienced that sort of thing a couple of times and DD is a bit of a 'cool girl' in her peer group. But most people know all that is just bollocks and shifts over time

I'm not sure you qualify then Pag. I mean, only fat around the bum and only sometimes a bitch hardly qualifies you to be here at all really does it?

At least I am comprehensively fat

I'm guessing that OP does not ever consider herself as 'most people' Pag, in any way, shape or form!

Both.

I lurk/post on here most days because I'm a SAHM and sometimes you just need to chat/get advice/offer an opinion/stay sane.

Having said that, there are some on here who are just so cantankerous and argumentative. and clearly up for a scrap.

I once made the mistake of asking for opinions about a new business which I was hoping to set up. It transpired that I had posted in the wrong forum and I had two or three really bitchy comments and was reported to MNHQ. Whenever I see the names of the bitches, MNers who replied to that thread, I feel a twinge of irritation.

To be fair, she did post on another thread that she had escaped from DV. She may have very low self esteem.

Damn I didn't realise there was an alternative agenda to this thread....

Now I will have to go and read the other OP, figure our where I fit in the fat/provincial harpies stakes before I can get back to you...

fair enough Porto

She may have low self esteem but she ain't helping herself by trotting out childish insults.

Porto - I take the point about low self esteem. As a sufferer of that myself it's pretty hideous. However, none of her posts read remotely like someone with low self esteem. They read (as others have said) like someone who thinks an awful lot of themselves.

ah that excaping from dv may be the crux of the issue then, the not realising that insulting people is wrong, the taking every word her dp advised her it was him after all that said provincial and jealous of good lucking son etc, the spending lots of money on party stuff etc, maybe the dp is the narc and she is inverted or abusive codependant one? that is probably why people run from her

A case of alter ego. so insecure they pretend too much they arent so no body thinks they care. hence the major flip out when questioned as it cut to the core.

MN is amazing. occasionally i think people forget they are not in aibu topic when they post but lovey if you dont like what they are saying dont call them names there's this thing called a hide button. life is too short. get over it.

So in answer to the OP MN is full of lovely amazing people and i have been lucky enough to experience the generosity and kindness and advice that this place has to offer.

uber bitches the lot of you, I mean - I've never had any support from MN at all when I've needed it. - oh ok, I lie, supportive when you need it...........and a great fat kick up the arse when actually that's what you need

A mix of both obviously. But it can be unpredictable. I've just read a most shocking piece of vitriol on a thread where a woman was asking for support and help. The same thread another day may have had a good supportive response. Some parts are always supportive though, and for that I am truly grateful

Which thread are you referring to Witless? Was it the OP's?

No, it wasn't the OP's it was 'partner doesn't like baby' and a poster just called the OP selfish and said she wasn't fit to have children if she hadn't already called women's aid

Generally very supportive and great for lots of common sense advice; it is so useful to be able to get other people's opinions and to see things from a different angle - people will be honest on here and not necessarily in RL as they are frightened of 'hurting your feelings'.

Sometimes you get the odd ridiculous comment or rudeness (just like RL) but I think its great ....... and I've been around nearly ten years now !

PS I am fat (but happy) and my DS is definately not gorgeous - even to me .

I replied on this and the thread about a lady who was asking for advice regarding school mum's and being blanked, it was all going smoothly and normally until op's third post, she seemed to take offence to some of the what I would think of as normal type of responses. She then went into an abusive rant at women in general and at the ladies on here. After that the other posters who made me laugh a great deal, were quite at times abusive back at her, though mostly making a joke out of her comments at how women were b*tches, prvincial, fat and how good looking op's ds was, it is a shame that the op could not take the time to look at the resonses and felt the need to start this poll and inflame further, although again I have found some posts very amusing!