Yay! Very excited!

[allgonebellyup]

Just received a massive bunch of red roses, sent to my work in front of the entire staff!

Have been seeing new blokey only since Saturday, he has visited me most nights since then, but we have yet to make it physcial (his decison to not rush it, not mine!)

Exciting stuff! (but im sure i will mess it up, as usual- hence my username!)

Aw, thank you very much

yep, mumbles, you sound like you are married to an abuser.....

And my DH of two years falls into that category too, as his first Christmas present to me was a trip to Paris, and we'd only been together for about 2-3 months...

Allgone, you enjoy them, and enjoy him he sounds lovely, wish I had someone who was that thoughtful.

Ooh i have just realised there are lillies in there too - i mentioned in our first phone call 2 months ago that they were my fave flowers!!

Lillies??? Well that seals it bellyup - he's clearly a serial killer - enjoy!!!

That's lovely allgone enjoy, however, i'm now very worried as my DP sent me a gorgeous bouquet of flowers after our 1st date and still loves surprising me with flowers/romantic jestures and texts/rings me when we are apart so is obviously a controlling abuser - how could I have missed the signs :o

God forbid that a bloke could actually be nice

Have a lovely weekend.

Awww Allgone.. how nice for you... just take it as it is... you were feeling poorly and he wanted to make you feel a little better... lovely!

ps.. my DH falls into the "controlling abuser" catagory too.

How lovely allgone, enjoy and ignore the abuse thread. If you're anything like me, it won't matter, if you hate his socks it will all over before it starts

Nobody said it was an indicater of domestic violence or being a serial rapist , but quick involvement and big gestures CAN ( not always obviously ) be a warning sign of an unpleasant charecter .

Annie , Aminita100 and Pinemartina only offered caution , so the sarcasm about controlling husbands sending flowers isnt warranted really.

I'm speechless

(About the abuse advice - not the nice man sending flowers!)

Hacking , there wasnt any abuse advice , there was a suggestion of keeping an eye out for red flags. No one said abuse.

I wouldn't call it a big gesture, it's a bunch of flowers, not a diamond ring!!
Enjoy the romance allgone

Ignore the potential 'abuser' comments and enjoy the heady days of dating OP.

Aw that's lovely, enjoy the flowers and attention, i have a boyfriend who never ever does anything like that and would love it if he did, so jealous x

Pretty shocked by this thread tbh.We all have walked a different road to get here .Seriously.... no one is trying to burst your bubble OP !!!Be cool x

Aaw, sounds lovely. Enjoy!

I know those posting about red flags etc are genuinely trying to help but jesus it's thoroughly inappropriate.

In fact I'm sure offering overly personal, wildly assumptive and uninvited warnings is on some red flag list somewhere...

Well hopefully it will all turn out perfectly but it never hurts to be aware of the Red Flags at the beginning of any relationship. Time will tell.

Rubypink "Twisted"? "Jealous"?, having received fantastic support and advice from the posters you directed those comments at I have to say you couldn't be further from the truth and actually you sound a bit ott yourself.

Relationships that move very fast often become unpleasant. Doesn't hurt to be aware of this at the beginning does it?

How to depress a person in one easy step. Also feeling bashed down by MN tonight ... was alright and now feeling utterly crap. Ignore....flowers are a lovely gesture. Wonder if Jane Austin ever suspected her characters of violent abuse when they took their ladies for a walk round the garden?

I should imagine she had an inkling of it yes, back in those halcyon days when a woman was considered unmarriageable, a drain on her parents and a spinster by aged 29. When marriage was considered to be the only option for women. Jane Austen seems to have been very much the pragmatist when it comes to the majority of relationships, the loving relationships she writes of that ended in marriage seem to have been very much the exception, rather than the norm, which I think is explored in all of her novels.

Don't mean to burst the OP's bubble, honestly and tbh I wouldn't have posted anything about red flags myself but I don't think those that did should be called Twisted and Jealous especially here on this board, given what they have been through.

Fgs , no ones said hes a violent abuser , or a rapist, or a domestic abuser . Why is it being repeatedly being stated that these things have been said when they havent ?

Fwiw quick involvement , wanting to "wait " to have sex , and big gestures in front of others ARE things to be cautious of , how stupid to compare that to a husband sending flowers . Those who posted suggesting caution were not being malicious , and as for jealous and twisted , i suppose womens aid and other agencys who suggest caution are jealous too ?

I hate it when theres this theme of claiming things were said when they werent , domestic violence , abuser ect, no one said that. At all.

I agree with dignified. Couldn't have put it better myself.