Is this strange?!

[Vickyvicvic]

First time I have posted on mumsnet although been looking at the site for a long time. My H and I have got into a fantasy that I'm becoming increasingly concerned about. Where to start! oh well here goes .. after I stopped breastfeeding I had a real need to keep on with it and one night when H and I were fooling around in bed I basically pulled him on and encouraged him to start suckling, basically over the past 6 months or so has developed into a bit of a thing where I baby him. H seems to really enjoy it and I do too but I could never tell even my best friend as it just sounds too strange. Hate to open the floodgates but am I alone in thinking this?

Not my bag but there are blokes who pay for the baby experience, saw it on some dodgy late night tv programme once.

yes, it's strange.

Mmmmm, not sure it's my bag but each to their own.....

not feeling good now!

If it doesn't make you feel good then don't do it.

why would you want to tell your friends about it anyway?

Why? If you both like it why care? It is a "fantasy" as there are hookers who help indulge this fantasy so it exists can't for the life of me remember anything about it as I saw a programme on it years ago, google it.

just my best friend who i tell most things to but couldnt tell her. its not that i dont feel good when i am doing it .. its just the next morning i feel a bit strange

"H seems to really enjoy it and I do too"

It is strange, but people should be able to entertain their fetishes. If a couple both enjoy something, which is outside the mainstream, they've struck gold.

Just googled it and there is loads on it. we havent taken it as far as nappies etc but there are obviously others doing it.

I have heard of blokes liking this but tbh I personally wouldn't be comfortable with sharing something meant for nurturing your children with dh. Once maybe if dh was curious but that's just my opinion. Has this become a part of sex or just anytime he feels like it? Is he embarrassed by it? Oh and welcome :)

Well look at it this way - if he has this fetish and indulges in it with you to whatever level you are comfortable with, is that not better than going out and finding someone else who he can do it with?

It is an intimate thing, and to me odd, but then people are into lots of odd things - people like being spanked, abused and shouted at. That's no more weird than wanting a cuddle and nuzzle with a warm lovely woman. It's probably not even sexual.

loopylou - it has become part of it as most evenings I feed him whilst sitting up in bed H lying on my lap with a pillow under his head and me playing with him! I think I'm being selfish as I also make it go on for ages so I can satisfy my need and wont let him cum until I have had enough. We never talk about it .. only during but in a sexy way rather than discussing it.

whomovedmy - its very intimate a lovely but it was me who initiated it so it wasnt his thing but its become his thing

I can see it doing anything for me, but I think many things we enjoy sexually sound strange when written down - it's just that some are normalised. Oral sex sounds pretty yuk, but lots of people enjoy not only receiving but also giving. So who cares. It's loving and it's consenting and it's between you and your DH.

You don't have to tell your best friend everything.

thanks 1234

It wouldn't be my kind of thing but each to their own - you aren't hurting anyone. It does sound unusual at first read, but I wonder how many men would go for it if it was on the sexual menu so to speak (scuse the pun), lots of men like to cuddle and nuzzle, I suppose the only difference is you are producing milk.

I'm an adult thumb sucker, and have been asked to bring that habit into the bedroom by a particular man, but I wouldn't tell my friends that.

I think all men want to be mothered which is kind of what it is I suppose.

relieved .. how did thumb sucking come into the bedroom, just curious

The fella in question knew it was a habit of mine generally (like when I'm watching telly or going to sleep). On one occasion when we were in the throes so to speak, he simply asked me to do it, so I did, and was happy to do so, because well, I like sucking my thumb and is became a regular thing.

relieved - do you think he wanted to imagine you as a girl or something?

Um. Not sure really - in a way I suppose so...but I think also it was part of how we interacted with one another sexually - it was generally based on him being dominant and me being submissive and vulnerable so in a way, me sucking my thumb added to that. He was into the school girl fantasy.

And in my earlier post when I said some men would go for what you and your DH do, I think the ex that I am referring to would have gone for that.

My freind and her H do this and have done for a long time . She once drunkenly announced it to a shocked group of freinds , i dont think its unusual and if you both like it i dont see the problem .

relieved - thanks and interesting that you think he would have gone for it as well

relieved - do you mean you or him as the baby?

Him I would think.

And while we're sharing things we don't tell our friends...he liked to be barked at. I did not get that at all.

bitty