Is this strange?!

[Vickyvicvic]

First time I have posted on mumsnet although been looking at the site for a long time. My H and I have got into a fantasy that I'm becoming increasingly concerned about. Where to start! oh well here goes .. after I stopped breastfeeding I had a real need to keep on with it and one night when H and I were fooling around in bed I basically pulled him on and encouraged him to start suckling, basically over the past 6 months or so has developed into a bit of a thing where I baby him. H seems to really enjoy it and I do too but I could never tell even my best friend as it just sounds too strange. Hate to open the floodgates but am I alone in thinking this?

barked at .. wow never come across that. did you have to pretend to be a dog?

hullgully .. dont say that, I remember thinking how awful that was

sorry - but somebody had to

Not really - I'm not sure if that's what he wanted, but I wouldn't have been comfortable with that. He would just ask for me to make the noise, but its not something I was especially keen on (easier when pissed) although come to think of it, he was always on at me to get a lead (they're in the bondage bit at Ann Summers) . I am sharing way too much today.

relieved .. yeh not sure i would want to be a dog .. may be if he was the dog

Yeah it's not something I miss!

Seriously though, fair play to you - in a consensual, loving relationship, if you are both happy with something and you aren't hurting anyone, then do whatever you like.

Don't forget, there is a fetish for absolutely everything, they often can't be explained and people shouldn't be judged (well, I'm allowed to wonder about the ex and the barking thing and whether it means anything happened between him and his pets but that's just because he's now my ex and I'm all bitter ).

hully - no it didn't need saying, we're all adults here.

Mean of you, poor OP is obviously distressed about this.

Relieved - the woofing is quite alarming though

it did

I did have a guilty chuckle at Hullygully.

OP, it's definitely in the ballpark of odd fetishes, but fuck it, if you and your DH both enjoy it then that's great. How you both get your kicks is no one else's business.

whomovedmychocolate yeah it's not something I miss!

If you like it and he likes it then nothing else matters, even if every other person in the whole world thought it was weird. It is a totally private thing between you and him.

Probably very nutritious for him too.

Can I ask in what way are you "becoming increasingly concerned about it" OP?

loopylou - its just that I think i enjoy it too much and im not sure what my true motives are and in the cold light of day it seems strange. i like the fact im dominant over H when normally im not, the bf i love as it makes me feel great.

The bf aspect, I can't comment on.

But enjoying being dominant when you aren't normally isn't that unusual (or vice versa) -IRL, I'm a strong, independent, clever woman and take charge of lots of situations...for some reason, I enjoy switching off from this in bed, being objectified and dominated.

Vicky, it doesn't matter what we, your friends or anyone else thinks... if you and your DH both enjoy it and want to indulge in the privacy of your own home then what's the problem?

I'm with hully..aaaaannnndd welcome to mumsnet

welcome, new poster x

btw, I hope you are not relying on this for contraception (puts health visitor's hat on)

no not relying on this for contraception. but to be honest we havent had penetrative sex for ages. its a routine of breastfeeding whilst wanking H and then he goes down on me. so dont need contraception

As with all fetishes it can sometimes replace sex as the urge to be satisfied skips intercourse....it's a shame you cannot discuss this aspect of your sex life outside of your marriage. Something must feel uneasy or you wouldn't post, so what is it that bothers you?

Do you say

'no dear, no bitty now, bitty later!' ?

Sorry, I find it odd because why would 'babying' ever come into sex?

It bothers me as its not normal. H has suggested taking it further which is really why I posted.

Cant describe why its sexy it just is.

H likes it when I talk to him in a babyish way as well.

If you like it and he does then I wouldn't worry what's normal. But if it does concern you I wouldn't take it further, the implications about more baby stuff is if you reach the point of no return. IE if he wears a nappy and you hate it, could you ever look at him again?

posieparker - just the thought of that makes me cringe but I know he would love it.

a nappy?!

sorry this is horrible.

Why would the things you do with your CHILDREN, the nuturing of feeding and changing their bums be brought into the bedroom, into adult sex?!

Its just really creep and is instinctivly wrong to me.

Babies / nappies / feeding + sex?!

No, no, no.

Sorry.

I'm not trying to be nasty, you did ask and this is what I think,

Yuck.

Here you go...fill your nappy boots!