Calling all prostitutes and former prostitutes on MN, as there seem to be a few around right now...

[Aitch]

I'm curious to know how it makes you feel to see threads on here from wives and girlfriends etc when they discover that their husbands etc have been visiting prostitutes? even if you are happy in your own jobs (and i hope to god you are somehow, because the alternative is intolerable), how does it feel to be confronted with the downside of your work on these pages?

(i think it goes without saying that the men are culpable in this scenario, but am looking for some insight into how your work squares with sisterhood etc).

I would like to ask: I've thought of going to a prostitute. Have been without sex for over 2.5years and don't want a relationship. Have thought of having a one night stand and I don't want to deal with it if he's disappointing or give my number and there is no way I want him in my house the next day.

Am I really a bad person to consider paying for sex when that's all I want?

Believe me, it wasn't meant to be mean. I really should have another go at blogging about that and setting things straight.

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I attacked her because in her actions she is condoning the rape of women by her husband.

Saying how appalled she is by the possibility that it happened doesn't cut it.

If you stay with a man who you KNOW has had sex with women where consent was in question, then IMO you are supporting a rapist.

Wanting to keep your cosy little family together is not a good enough reason to stay with a man who has admitted that he is unconcerned about consent and may well have raped several women.

AF I've already apologised to the relevant people for the way that post came across.

Sorry, got distracted by another thread. If my Dc wanted to become prossies, I'd tell them there's no market for straight men; I have only DSs. And I do wish the antis (I don't mean you, OP) would stop trying to guilt-trip us all the time with the "do your family know?" and the "Are you ashamed?" shite.

Ski... You are wrong and cruel. End of. I thought we'd done this already.

Dione... No you're not wrong. However, you would need to figure out how you feel about it. You wouldn't want to feel bad afterwards.

Dione, no, you're not a bad person; but this thread isn't the right place for discussion. Maybe start a new one, in Relationships? (Rather than AIBU or Feminist topics.)

You're spouting horse shit now amanda.

Do you actually need a website to get custom?

I have one for the cleaning thing, but everything is word of mouth now. Certainly wouldn't need to advertise it on MN during a heated debate about, um, cleaning.

Maybe you do? Inverness is sparsely populated and you're mates with most of your customer's wives/dps? Need to drum up a bit of outraged Daily Mail welcome publicity coverage?

Still laughing that you actually ^googled^ sex laws in Thailand before posting some officious sounding bollox about it.

what about an imaginary dd, OFFS?

manda...where have you apologised to the "relevant people" ??

what are you on about ?

i don't read your slef-indulgent blog, nor am I likely to

I don't expect the women youare disrespecting so loftily are likely to either

does twiddling with a blog absolve you of good manners and respect for fellow women ?

UA I didn't advertise it, you wanted proof of who I am.

My clients find me through my website. I don't actually live in Inverness and I don't have any friends there.

manda...I believe you meant to be mean and you have let your guard slip on this thread

(to be fair to skidoodly and without knowing much of the other poster's situation, i was also a bit [shocked] at how sanguine she was about her husband possibly having slept with co-erced women. i genuinely am struggling to think of something i would find more abhorrent in a dh. could i get over him sleeping with a prostitute? hmmm, dunno, not sure, might try... all sorts of infidelity stuff there, but if he was able to acknowledge that he didn''t much care if the woman was trafficked or not, then it would be goodnight vienna, no question about it.none at all.)

ski...thanks for coming back and repeating what you said before

I still think you are nasty to the wrong person, and inappropriately-so on this thread

AF You will believe whatever you want to believe as you are trying to find more reason to dislike me.

aitch...did the dh in question actually say he didn't care if the prostitutes he slept with were trafficked/not trafficked ??

Ok, Aitch, an imaginary DD... I'll be honest and admit that I'd rather no DD of mine became a WG.... UNLESS she was very certain of what she wanted to do, had researched thoroughly what is involved, and so on. The fact is (as any mother of a teenager, particularly one aged 16 or over) I have no control over the actions of my adult DC. And neither should I have.

I will repeat what I have said elsewhere on MN; it is my personal opinion that, if we regulate prostitution, the minimum age should be 25.

I didn't become a WG at 18 - I was 20 years older. It's a totally different situation.

manda...you are confusing me with someone else

every response of mine to you on this, and on other threads, has been in direct reply to what you have actually said

I will ask again...where have you apologised for disresecting other women you see as inferior to yourself ??

I believe what I see...not smoke and mirors

*disrespecting

Once again I have come across something on MN that reveals me to be, truly, A Mundane.
[Even DH gave a nonchalent shrug about the Services discount - as, apparently, everyone knows about that. Doesn't help that I misread/misunderstood it, and thought it was a loyalty discount scheme - buy 9 get your 10th free ]

It was the wrong thread to open up 10 mins before I wanted to go to bed.

I'm here 1.5 hours later, and really don't know any more what I think about prostitutes and the men who use them!

manda, you are most certainly not "a tart with a heart" no matter what you would like us to believe

AF There are things you don't know about me. These things would make any idea you have that I look down on street walkers seem laughable. However, I am not about to lay out my entire life story for your benefit or amusement.

I've already been accused of being class privileged and I was prepared to tell you why that is laughable, but I really don't think that I should have to lay my entire existence out here to defend myself. Nobody else does.

I have been accused of being a fraud, a troll, a liar, a cheat and a snob. I've been insulted and bullied. All because I stepped in here to give my side of the story. Some of you seem interested, others are only interested in getting rid of me and then cleaning up where I've been.

Why?

AF You do not know me. Why do you feel qualified to judge me?

25, yes, that's interesting, i can see that.

Wow really heated thread I think people are just going to have to realise that no matter how much you explain(or shout) your position if your speaking to people who are not interested in listening then your points are not really going to get anywhere.