Calling all prostitutes and former prostitutes on MN, as there seem to be a few around right now...

[Aitch]

I'm curious to know how it makes you feel to see threads on here from wives and girlfriends etc when they discover that their husbands etc have been visiting prostitutes? even if you are happy in your own jobs (and i hope to god you are somehow, because the alternative is intolerable), how does it feel to be confronted with the downside of your work on these pages?

(i think it goes without saying that the men are culpable in this scenario, but am looking for some insight into how your work squares with sisterhood etc).

Don't try getting AF on-side over ski's comments, to distract attention from the ongoing convo.

Cheap trick.

@ Manda

Why don't you just admit that you are a class priviledged type of person who works in the 'sex industry'. Your capitalist approach is laudable but you really need to outline your position in all of this.

Your posts are interesting. But your agenda is narrow.

UA, I am engaging only with ski, but I'm done now

In Thailand the age of consent is 15. The minimum age to enter prostitution is 18.

A tourist who has sex with a child prostitute will usually be committing a crime in the host country, under the laws of his own country (notwithstanding him being outside of it) and against international law

I'd break up my family in a second rather than have my girl children grow up in a home with a father who was so unconcerned about consent that there was a significant doubt over whether or not he had raped multiple women.

I was disagreeing with Ski's treatment of MrsJ.
The chances of me "getting AF on-side" are somewhere around the same level as a snowball has of staying frozen in hell.

I don't play games.

Are there any prostitutes/former prostitutes who wouldn't sleep with a man if they knew they were married? I'm assuming not but would like to no if this is not the case.

I'm sorry you so distrust your DH/DP, ski. :(

nappyaddict, I think that's already been addressed. And basically, the answer is, most of us have no interest in his marital status.

Class privileged?

Excuse while I laugh myself into a hole in the ground.

I am well educated because I paid attention.
I paid attention so that I could get the hell out of the shit hole I grew up in.

My parents were from middle class backgrounds, but that didn't change the fact that we were poor as church mice and I grew up in a horrible part of a nice town in a crappy council house with drunks and drug addicts for neighbours.

I now live in a little cottage in the country.

Nothing has ever been handed to me on a plate. Bettering myself/improving my lot in life was a hard slog.

This isn't about my marriage or trust of any kind.

It's about a woman who knows for certain that her husband has had sex that may not have been consensual.

i.e. there is a good chance that he is a rapist, and even if by some good luck he is not a rapist, it has been demonstrated that he is indifferent to a woman's consent if he is paying.

That is a bad man.

That is a bad man to have around your children.

Those are horrible actions to have a little hand-wring over while you work on "repairing" your marriage.

Ski.. That is utter bollocks dear.

No, bollocks is claiming that it is OK for Asian women to be trafficked and raped because of some bullshit letter you found on the Internet.

ski...you have said your piece very personally about MrsJ

is there any way you could make your comments less hurtful to one individual poster ?

Night AF.

Manda, you have been enjoying this game of cat and mouse all evening. Don't be so disingenous.

For the record, I really don't believe for one single minute that you are a sex worker.

If you are, then you are doing admirably well, as you've been able to stick around on MN all night and presumably not earned a cent.

I presume you have regurgitated that nonsense about Thailand from a bit of quick googling.

You really want to sound well informed.

But you aren't. You people really are a menace - pretending to be someone or thing you aren't.

Why don't you get a twix from the fridge and go to bed.

I never claimed that it was ok for anyone to be trafficked and/or raped.

UA I can prove who I am if you want.
I'm not working this week because I can't be arsed to. The joys of being self employed and I earned enough last week to cover this week.

Any

I'm only on this thread because of comments by that particular poster that made my blood run cold.

She's your mate and you think she's great and a victim, that's fine.

The casual terms in which she alludes to the women her husband may have raped disgust me.

Yes I did google the Thai laws. So what? Doesn't make it nonsense.

P.S. I don't keep chocolate in the fridge and I don't like Twix

manda and offs Do you do it full time or do you have other jobs? Do you go on the streets or have some sort of appointment system? Do your friends, DPs, relatives, DC etc know what you do?

You know what the one thing I hate is. When people refer to prostitutes they often refer to them as dirty. Whether they choose to do it or have been forced that doesn't make them dirty

No one calls escorts dirty and a high percentage of them actually do have sex with their clients. It's legal and they pay tax. Yet really what's the difference between an escort and a prostitute or someone working in a brothel? I don't really understand why it's legal if you call yourself an escort but not if you call yourself a prostitute.

ski

no, she isn't my mate

no, I don't think what she is doing is great, for her, I don't give a fuck about him

he should lose his cosy family, for his fucking self-entitled misogyny (but that is another thread)

her comments on this thread were in context with the thread...the question was asked how do WG's feel about fucking married men ?

MrsJ has experience of being on the other side of the debate (unfortunately)

of course she has an opinion about it, but why did you have to attack her ?

Nappyaddict. Prostitution is legal in the UK. The title: Escort, courtesan or whatever is mainly to distinguish between us and street walkers.

I'm classed as an escort because I charge for my time. Social escorting is pretty much a myth. Escorts have sex with their clients.

I have a website and my clients contact me through that.

I pay tax etc and I have regular medical check ups.

Do please prove it.

At least you confessed to knowing feck all about the very, very loose laws on fucking in Thailand.

Sadly, that just makes you an even more dangerous advocate for your 'trade'.

nappyaddict, there is no difference in law between those of us who work as "independent escorts" and streetwalkers. Most indies are happy to go along with whore, WG, prostitute, prossie... we don't care, it's only those who would seek to end our self-employment who bother about "naming it".

Thanks you for your positive comments. :)

(And no, I don't go on the streets, I'm internet-only. So is Manda.)