Ok, I've blithered on about it before. I'm sorry. I even thought I'd worked it out in my own mind and I didn't care anymore. But I do. PIL have now only seen DS for about 5 hrs in total since he was 4 weeks old. They don't live in a foreign country, they live about two hours drive away in one of their two cars.
They mumbled something about coming up in August, but then one weekend their daughter (who lives in the same city) required a babysitter so they cancelled. They are on hand to babysit there all the time, and do from what I can tell. Nephew is 6 months old. DS is 10.
Then they said they would be up last weekend. Then nothing more was said. DP now has an interview at the end of the month as we want to return to Bristol (where they live). He rang her today and asked if a) they might come up this weekend and B) if we could stay there for the night of his interview. No, they won't be coming up, and they are going on their 2nd holiday at the time of interview.
This really has got my blood boiling again. She never even phones to see how DS is. Has no idea about how he is getting along. How can she be so blase about missing the entire first year of his life?
I wanted to send a text, kind of along the lines of 'I really don't want to fall out with you and I know you are busy with H (other grandson). But you have another beautiful grandson up here who would love to see his Granny. You can't get this precious baby time back and he is growing up so quickly. Your son is too loyal to you to question you, he loves you both very much and wishes you could see B more.'
So what do you think? Shall I get down off my high horse and leave well alone? Or do you think my point should be made? Can anyone out there calm me down and make me reasonable .
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I need some well reasoned, calm reponses to my 'Would you say this?'
Flossam · 05/09/2005 16:52
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