hurtful gossip!!

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Why do women gossip??

Hurtful gossip to make themselves look good!

How do you deal with it,

1. Do you have it out with the person

1. Rise above it and keep smiling

How come it's always the trouble makers that come out on top??

More specifics needed, I think.

Men are dreadful gossips too, you know.

ohh lord, I've been the subject of more gossip than I even know about - all ficticious - and the main source of it is a male neighbour, although he does have an accomplice in another female neighbour. I've no idea why he does it, although a couple of people have said that he's got a thing for me and basically wants my life to be ruined so he can be my knight in shining armour or something!

I've only recently found out about it but he's been talking about me for about 15 years! at least I now know why people would be friendly with me and then sort of drift away. Whenever I see him in the street I cut him dead and give him a very hard stare. In my head I plot and scheme all kinds of evil tortures for him but there's no point doing anything, because I'd be the one to get into trouble

Specifics given here

the worst gossips are those with emotional voyeristic tendancies and are hiding their own personal problems by discussing the pain of others or judging by assuming, leave them to it, your repution does matter, what is important is how people see you behave and if they believe rubbish rather than what they see they are not worth you bother, as the aim is for healthy people to be in your life with positive outcomes for you!