Help ! I feel stuck & don't know what I can do

[LostinGlos]

I'm really after some advice as I feel like I have got myself into a situation that I can't find any way out of...
I have been married to DH for 4 years & we have 2 DD's under 2 (I also have a 16yr old DS from 1st marriage).
Marriage is really over & I would like DH to either leave or sell our house & split proceeds, but DH won't leave (as he says this is not what he wants & it is my decision to end marriage so why should he)& if we sell house, is demanding exactly half proceeds, even though this will leave me in an impossible position to be able to buy a place big enough for me & 3 DC's.
DH does not work & I have completely supported all 5 of us for the past 9 months & coming into this marriage 5/6th's of the money was mine to start with, even when working I have always paid the lion's share of everything.....At 41 years old I don't want (& can't afford) to start another huge mortgage, whilst his half will almost completely pay off a small flat (which is all he intends to buy). It will mean he gets way more money back than he had when he came into the marriage & I will have significantly less..
Is he entitled to take me to the cleaners ? can I force him to leave ? I am living on a shoestring as it is & obviously when he goes I will have to pay a nursery / childminder (as he looks after the children currently) aswell, knowing that I will get no mainentance from him either ?
Sorry I'm all very confused.....

Womans Aid will believe you

"just" pushing and grabbing, putting his hands round your throat are physical assaults, it doesn't have to be a punch

I am frightened for you, I think his violence will escalate as you push him harder to split

you must get RL support, call womans Aid today

Thanks will call this evening when I get home & he is out.

He becomes very emotional at the thought of us splitting, he really doesn't want to & don't get me wrong most of the time he is perfectly nice it is just when I broach the subject of settlement or anything else he doesn't agree with he firstly just gets very verbally abusive & throws really visious insults.

An update though is that he has called me at work today to say that he has been given the job that he went to interview for, it is poorly paid, but that doesn't matter & at least he won't be able to say that he is the DC's Primary carer anymore.

Trouble is that I think he now thinks that, it was the money problems that was the main issue & that I will now be happy again & all will go back to normal(though normal was pretty bad!)

God I can't spell

good luck x and keep us posted, won't you

Oh that is good news. Good luck!

I will & thank you 2 u all !