Okay - I know most men are decent, nice people and I am married to one of these. However, what is it about some men who have to make allegations and cause upset to their ex-partners.
Yesterday I got a call from a colleague who'd been to see a new baby. The Dad (the father of one of the three year olds on my patch, and who has a long history of nasty violent conduct towards his women)made several allegations about the three year old's Mum:
Alcohol++ everywhere
Loads of lodgers coming and going
Three year old not happy
House chaotic and dirty
Now all this sounds dreadful and mobilises health and social services rapidly to see if all is well. Being a HV I went to see this Mum (phoned her yesterday and said I needed to pop in and see her).
I went and saw:
A happy and chatty child who was appropriately dressed and fed.
Good relationship with Mum
No evidence of alcohol
One lodger (hardly "loads of")
An untidy house (Mum was decorating and some things evidently belonged elsewhere)
Lots of toys.
Okay so Mum and the lodger (female) smoke openly in the house (and in front of me ) but that's hardly the crime of the century is it?
I also heard from Mum that now Dad has a new baby he has informed her that she "won't be recieving maintainace anymore" as he "can't afford it".
Grrrrrrrr! My blood is boiling.