scared its all too much, how can "we" survive

[lynny70]

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Lynny,
You said yourself so many times how wonderful your DH is, you both will weather this storm.
Sorry to hear DD2 is stillcrying non-stop, is it is colic there the light at theend of the tunnel will get closer soon.
Big hug to you! and him!

Your post has just made me feel really sad for you Sounds awful.

I think you both very much still do love each other - you definitely sound like you do - lucky you finding a sexy, patient, kind man

Is there an option of some sort of childcare even just for an evening out so you can give your relationship a little TLC?

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How old is your baby? Have you been the gp about her to rule out reflux or an infection?
Tried swaddling?
Feel for you. It is so hard to hear a baby cry and you must be at the end of your tether.
And remember, it won't always be like this.

Oh you poor thing - the first few weeks are sssssssssooooooooooooooooooooooo demanding and sleep is the only cure.

Go outside breath some fresh air and come back in. Tell him you love him and you know things are difficult just now but you and DD will always love him

Big hugs to you all
x

lynny,sounds really really stressful.
Good thing is that at 10 weeks,your baby will shortly be coming out of the screaming phase.
Remind yourself and your dh of this when things are (temporarily) calm.
He sounds lovely and all daddies can be a bit grumpy (same as thre mothers).
I distinctly heard my dh say 'Oh fucking hell,not again!' when my dd chose the same bedtime story for the 18th night running and I'm sure she did too!

Invest in a a dummy and pray dd likes it. Sounds awful, is there anyone nearby who could babysit for an hour one night for you, just so you could get away for a wee bit, even to Tescos.

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You rant away lynny.That's why MN exists!

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Have you posted before,lynny?

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Dull!? Dull??!
You don't touch me in terms of droning on when it comes to bloody formula ads!!!!

I bore/rant for Wales.

I recognize your name now. Is the baby sleeping?

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Go and rest and think peaceful positive thoughts.

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Don't worry. Usually I can cope with ds1 (severely autiistic- 6 year old) and the other 2 (3 and 7 months) but last week in a campervan I absolutely could not cope wiith the pressure of ds1 in particular. And I screamed and swore and shouted at dh all wek (and he did the same back). It'll get back to normal and you'll be able to do that swithc off thing you have to.

DS3 spent a lot of time in a sling whilst I was chasing ds1 otherwise he was just crying, and I couldn't deal with him and ds1. Don't worry it gets better

Oh god doon;t get moondog going on milupa

Oh, poor you and poor baby - reflux AND excema, bless her. At least you know it's not your fault that she's crying and you are doing your best. What treatment is she having for the reflux? Do you think it's working?
Oh, the sound of a baby crying, makes me so tense and I feel so angry if I can't make it stop. Awful, isn't it?

Yep - the crying thing can be awful - dont feel bad for ranting about it! (Have to confess shouting at DS this afternoon because he hadnt stopped crying for over an hour - hes 19 weeks and was just having a bad day. Having woken several times in the night it was all a bit much for me). At one point most conversations between me and DP started "doesnt he EVER stop crying???". Give it a few weeks and he will start to settle and so will you and your DH. Fingers crossed for you! x

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aww lynny I just want to hug you. Things will get better, it is a life phase and will pass i promise

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Lynny, it will get easier...my DH confessed to me a while ago that at times last year (our DS is 17mths) he dreaded coming home! I was soo upset and cried...but I could understand why...I am truly a bitch from hell when I am sleep deprived!!!
You sound like you have a fab family unit and are bound to have ups and downs, it is such a stressful time! The good thing is that everyone knows why you are a bit more shirty with each other and you are addressing it, it's just a phase and soon you will have forgotten how tough things were in the early days

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Oh Lynny, your Dh sounds lovely!!!
I didn't really realise how bad things were at the time, but can see (with hindsight) that we now live in a much happier house! You seem much more perceptive than me...all I did was shout and cry!!!
Getting out and about is good for you to get a break and just offloading on someone else is good too. Have you anyone nearby that you can have a coffee and a moan with? Although, MN is good for that too!!
The most positive thing is that you and your DH are talking things through and you both recognise that this is only temporary...you obviously have a very loving and honest relationship..

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