they aren't dogs.
this is abou mutual respect.
my dh has learned that by contributing to household chores that he is doing what human beings do, as they contribute to the mess
he isn't doing me a favour, as the aethetics of cleanliness versus dirty isn't mine alone to appreciate.
that he is showing respect to the rest of the family.
think of this as a corporate course.
you walk in the room becuase you want to learn about lets say...health and safety at work
something you knew existed, but which you never gave much thought to
after you have been educated, you know what to be mindful of.
it is the same principle.
if men continue to abstain from their contribution to the household, especially if you have discussed an equal distribution of labour, then shit in his pillow case.