Not sure if I'm being stupid about this - but dating and manly men

[navyeyelasH]

Ok, when out on a date I usually expect the guy to get the first round in. I went on a date last week and I ended up getting in the first round and second, he got third.

Because of that I don't want to go out with the guy again, even though as far as first dates go it was ok.

I just want my men to be men, but not too manly, like farting and burping in public. God, what is wrong with me! AIBU?!

Yes, bring back the 1950s.

I had an internet date with a man - when I arrived he was already sitting down. He showed no sign of jumping up to get me a drink so I asked him what he wanted. He said nothing. When I went to the loo, I came back and he had another drink in front of him. I bought myself another one and so it went on..

When we left (it was a short, disastrous date) I worked out why - he was about a foot shorter than he'd claimed to be...

Just wondering about how this date came about, navy. Did he ask you out for a drink? Did you ask him?

Oh curableromantic!! But didn't he even stand up to greet you? That would be enough for me, if he didn't do that.

I don't think you are being stupid at all. On my first date with DH he got the first round in and wanted to get them all.

When we were leaving he held the door open for me and insisted, very nicely and quietly, that he walked me back to my car.

Its the little things that matter.

Don't think the issue is about 'manliness' but about lack of consideration. Give him another chance. See if he's less selfish or uncertain when he feels more confident.

Atswim, I know, it's a minimum!

Orm, I don't think someone who says 'you don't know what you're missing girls hound me' is particularly uncertain..

Oh I missed the text before. But I still don't think that it is a lack of manliness to not buy a drink, just bad manners.

I do get your point Orm. I must be very superficial, but for me, generosity in a man is important, I generally find it plays out in other areas.

And we have the children, which means we may one day find ourselves beholden to them for money...

I don't know why women are always being told to give dead-loss men another chance.

Why? Life is short, there are thousands out there who wouldn't behave like this on a first date. Why give someone the benefit of the doubt, chances are you will be wasting your time.

HerBeatitude - I agree absolutely - it's like "Give the guy a chance even though he's shown his true colours on the first date, then when he treats you badly come on here and post a thread about it."

The date came about via internet dating; mysinglefriend.

I agree with HerBeatitude! We're also told that men are allowed to treat you badly if they like you quite a lot!

Anyway, today is Friday!!

IMO whoever is there first should get the first round, male or female friend. Then I would have offered to get the next one. He obviously has an inflated opinion of himself