When you go on a date for the first time, what things really put you off

[electra]

that you feel you probably couldn't look past?

For me it's bad breath and when someone is waaaaaay too smooth.

Oooh, Elephants, did it involve "negging"?

Queue, in my case, we met online and he did not unleash the crazy by email.

I'm recently single having just come out of a 4 year relationship I've had 3 dates in the past few weeks all rubbish...

Date number 1 - casually lit up a joint halfway through the evening (yes we were in public)

Date number 2 - Disappeared off to the loo for 30 minutes!! He'd left his man bag (yes this should have given me a clue) on the table so didn't feel that I could leave and knew that he hadn't decided to abandon me half way through. He didn't even apologise or give a reason....

Date number 3 - went into great detail about how he didn't think blowjobs counted as cheating...

All these dates I found online - think I may give up!

Queue, I think IME it's the people you meet in a situation where they have to act fairly normally, so at work or at somebody's party in a big crowd of people. It's only when you get them alone that the true horrors emerge!

Wow MissyMimi, bet (3) thought he was really onto a winner with that line of conversation

"Apparently his sister was a librarian and a lovely person but she had 'self-esteem issues' because she was always being 'undermined' by his mother."

• Fellatio I don't think there is anything wrong with someone telling you that. I think it's rather nice that he has worked out his mother is a cow.

I thought that BS - unless it was directly after sex or something

Agree with everything lequeen said.

Although I might be gagging for it inclined towards some action before date 12

ElephantsandMiasmas - or unless he actually said 'self-esteem issues' and 'undermined' in quotes - using tone of voice, fingers held in the air, or some other body parts held in the air.

• black stubby teeth
• talking about having really bad gastroentiritis and throwing up in a restaurant, mid conversation (this was a story being relayed)
• clearly not over ex

This was all one date. It was hideous. I actually ran away at the end because I was terrified he was going to try and kiss me

Suggesting we "go back to your flat and make out like weasels" (American). I mean, do weasels really make out?

I don't like long nails, bad breath, arrogance and rudeness to waiters/waitresses.

Beige socks.

Zookeeper - having a shaved crotch with a very small willy in the middle of it. oh just had to make up a great big whooping lie to my son on what I was laughing about! You've got tell me how you got out of that one...what on earth did you do? Know it's not Friday night, but tough week and could really do with a laugh advice if I'm ever in the same situation.

Not asking when I want to eat, so I'm left hungry.

Competitive drinking (yes, seriously).

Agree on the long fingernails.

Openly leching at other women - I mean I'm not gorgeous or anything but still...

Asking for a BJ....

Sometimes (just occasionally mind) I am utterly delighted to be married....

Thanks goodness for zookeeper's final line. I thought all of those were the same bloke.

pulling up staff on how much things cost, checking the bill/ trying to get a discount

'Asking for a BJ....'
chokes on wine