how do i get him out of my head?

[sereka]

i am not coping at all. I separated from my abusive partner of 10 years just 4 mths now. he got a girl now who is 3mths pregnant.

I was doing fine unitl i found out about the preganancy, plus my daughter when praying at night (just 4yrs) is asking god to let her mom and dad live together again. this breaks my heart as they get along so well.

I am breaking down... it hurts so much, at work now and just want to be away from here.

What should i do? I dont want to be unhappy and why do i suddenly feel like this, after i was trying to adjust to single life. Tears in my eyes now... why me...wouldnt wish this feeling on my worse enemy

Children will always wish this. Just reassure her gently that while mummy and daddy love her very much they wont be living together anymore.

Keep saying this to yourself as well and make conversations and contact with him brief. I agree, it's so much better to move on from a relationship if you don't have kids. It takes a bit longer to forget, but you will and then get yourself ready for someone to enter your new life and hopefully you'll not repeat being with someone who's abusive but get the partner you deserve.

Chin up and best foot forward.