Brave Battling Babes - Booze No More!!

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Well, thanks to the refreshingly honest and inspirational JesusWhatNext - this is the third thread, for the battle to beat the booze for all of those who are on the path to do so.

Some are sober, some are trying to be and some are still drinking.

I'm Mouse, I'm new to this and I'm scared. So, come and join the journey.

Glass

Yes it's hard sometimes - you're simultaneously changing thought patterns and physical habits.

But it won't kill you, whereas not acting might.

And it will pass.

Think to yourself - what's the worst that can happen if you don't have a drink? Actually make a list.

I'll make you three bets:

Nothing on the list is actually that bad

Most of what's on the list could happen - but won't

The few things that do happen (sweats, poor or non-existent sleep, mild cramps, generally feeling a bit shit) have happened to you WITH a drink, proving that drink doesn't solve everything and that you can get through these consequences and come out in one piece on the other side

You are right, not acting will probably kill me. I am going to take the kids to the park, that will break the cycle of the evening for me.

Do make the list - it may help you when you think, "oh, what's the point?"

The only things on my list are

Bored

Won't relax

Not really a long list is it

When you put it like that it sounds kinda doable, doesn't it?

You probably won't sleep very well either. Big deal - it's normal, it won't kill you and it soon passes.

Off now but good luck to all and "speak" later.

S

Algee - so glad you're back .
Haven't you just moved ?
For me ,I find that I can cope throughout the stressful bits and then when there's light at the end of the tunnel I collapse into alcohol .
How are you doing now ?
I was sooo close today ,feel I escaped by the skin of my teeth .
Had a nice cold Supermalt about half an hour ago and some food ,and think that's helped .
Glass and Trinity ,keep going ,you can do it !
Mouse - hope it's a better day for you today .
Positive vibes to all .

Hello. No, ginger, move still to come I'm afraid!
Not in a good place at all unfortunately, it's like a switch flicked, and I'm so 'out of the zone' now. Feel dreadful not being on here as a supportive nearly 4 week person, but as a nearly-2-day-but-likely-not-to-make it-that-far-person. I have a problem. Thoyught I'd admitted it, but now not sure if I really had. Think I was kidding myself and am really scared of what that actually means.
keep on fairying all, you're doing good things!

Sorry, hundreds (literally) of posts and I haven't read them... will try to catch up on new names.

Algee - wish I knew what to say .
Is there anything you could do that would help ?
Go for a walk ? See GP for antidepressants ?
( I keep thinking about this ,but don't feel up to going ! Which even I think is a tiny bit crazy .)
Could you try real hard to just get through each hour ?
TBH I think if you're feeling bad ,it's easy to think " Oh what does it matter if I f*k up ."
I'm not helping am I .
Could you reread all those kind ,lovely posts you've sent people who were feeling bad and in danger ?
You need someone to support you .
Keep posting .
If I don't reply it's because I've been bumped off my laptop.

...think I need to stop 'palying' at it. Would rather gouge mye eyes out with a screwdriver than go to a doctor...can't believe somebody on a computer made me cry, but you did. I need to face this, with all the whys and wherefores (otherwise known as excuses, I know), just don't feel like doing it right now.
Felt like shit shit mcshit with a hangover though...forgotten how awful they were...didn't stop me wanting to go down another bottle thpough once I'd hit it with ibuprofen.

ps you made me cry in a 'crikey, aren't people kind' way, not a 'bloody hell what a cow' way!

Help.

DD is watching a repeat of 'Don't Stop Believing' on Fiver.

I have not had a drink tonight for the first time in about a year. This just might tip me over the edge!!

Joking. God I feel great. I'm on apple, raspberry and pomegranate juice, with a splash of lemonade and ice!! Yum!! Second one and not a drop of vodka in it.

I don't even know where the vodka is..... gave it to DH and told him to hide it. He has had half a glass of red with dinner and is now in the garden watering the veg!

Amazing.

hello babes - sorry been awol. Had interview today - it went well. Jut a case of wait and see now. At least I know i did my best - without a hangover!!

Hope you are all doing well. Willl sit down and read thread now and post tomorrow xx have taken to very early nights now to combat the desire for booze. Makes the evenings and the witching hour pass sooner!!

Thankyou all for your continued support. I'm sruggling - but I'm glad you are all here xx

Sorry, meant to say hello ginger and algee

Oh Algee ,hang on in there .
Get through tonight and the morning will seem better .
FWIW ,and I'm hardly the expert in succesfully beating this ,I think it's too big a task for anyone to face all the whys and wherefores all at the same time - and especially not with a hangover -).
Could you maybe just concentrate on not drinking for now and when you're feeling stronger ,maybe tackle the whys and wherefores one at a time ?
Why so wary of GP ?
I went once some years ago and the response was nothing but sympathy and support .
Intialli I only confessed to depression ,later to the drink .
Let us know how you're doing .
Is there something in particular that's making things hard ?

Well done cat!!!! Fingers crossed.

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Well done mouse

Posted when I meant to preview !
Was just reposting these links that forthe verylasttime suggested .
I've not had time to look at them ,but I wiil do .
Might be the online AA that I'm seeking .
Though this thread is pretty close !
Hazeleyes ,how are you ?
Algee ,sending you postive vibes .
You can do it ,little by little .

Mouse - great going !

Good stuff mouse. Cat, glad your intervieww went well
You managed to 'break the pattern' tonight, glass?
Thank you ginger thank you.
May I ask, how long have your 'lapses' generally lasted? You've probably already said, but I am feeling so lazy...

Hello again everyone. You have stopped me from drinking tonight for the first time in a long time.

Have finished the first thread but may have to go to bed as I can't stop crying.

I think that you are all amazing.

Algee and Glass - I hope that you stay strong. Algee - what you said on the first thread when you joined reminds me very much of me. My dd1 is the same age as your dd too. I read her story tonight and thought I bet she thinks it's strange I don't smell of wine.

You have made me realise that yes, I do have an alcohol problem. Now it's time to tackle it

Will catch up with thread two tomorrow. Thank you x

evening all!! (bends at the knees)

a big well done mouse!!! thats monday evening nearly over and done with!! daaay 1 as our trinity would say!

algee - well, that was a bit of a bugger, wasnt it? - never mind - pick your self up, dust yourself down and try again! its the only way to do it!

i have felt at a loose end all evening, everybody is out and i dont really feel like doing anything much, there is a fair old amount of crap on the telly and i have just been wandering about about, sort of looking at stuff - it is about 4 years since we decorated the living room, i may have to do something with it (wont dh be pleased! ) - i think i will go to bed in a bit, feel pretty tired actually.

toclear!!! well done lovley!!! what a brilliant start!! i promise that this is the beginning of soemthing really wonderful for you and your family!

Algee, do you think you might be depressed?

im not a doctors person too...have been on prozac a week and feel normal and in control for the first time in years.

i wish i had done it years ago.

hardly wanting a drink now, i feel so well.

havent lost my temper.

wake up feeling ok, rather than oh no.

i urge anyone who reads this thread and thinks they may be depressed to seek help.

well done everyone else, how many quitters due to this thread?
inspirational!