Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Flip

Original poster

problems with sex help

14 replies

angie0201 · 22/08/2005 21:56

Hi i had my baby 7 months ago with quite a rough delievery they used forceps and vontouse and me and dp have had trouble having sex since only at first as it goes on it gets better has anyone else experienced this need help

OP posts:

alexsmum · 22/08/2005 22:00

god we didn't have sex for ages after and it took a long time before it came right. think it's normal and natural.
all i can say is make sure you are really eelaxed and lots of foreplay etc. it'll all work out .
scuse the typing i've had a few drinks .

stitch · 22/08/2005 22:12

soounds perfectly normal

mumtosomeone · 22/08/2005 22:15

well, the more you do it the easier it will get..so night!!!!
off you go ;)

Original poster

angie0201 · 22/08/2005 22:20

thanks for the reassurance wa thinking all sorts that i would never be able to fall pregnant again etc i'm a bit of a worrier

OP posts:

mumtosomeone · 22/08/2005 22:21

ky jelly! a few drinks to help relax! A warm bath...together!!

Original poster

angie0201 · 22/08/2005 22:24

tried the jelly it helps a lot but at first fells v sore like i'm being pulled apart but after we stick at it for a bit it gets easier i'm going to the docs just to be checked anyway soon

OP posts:

mumtosomeone · 22/08/2005 22:25

ok!
But if you are worried about it when you get down to it you will be tense and it will be worse..if you expect it to hurt it will hurt iyswim!!!

Original poster

angie0201 · 22/08/2005 22:27

yeah seems to help when i relax more like i said as it goes on a bit, i thought that after you have a baby that sort of thing is back to normal in a couple of months

OP posts:

mumtosomeone · 22/08/2005 22:38

Think it depends! i was but had easy deliveries and no stitches! Just relax thats the best advice but not always easy! just lubricate!!!! Sounds good!!!lol!!!

Original poster

angie0201 · 22/08/2005 22:41

thanks for the chat needed someone to talk to about it you kow how funny men can be!

OP posts:

Donk · 22/08/2005 23:17

I had real problems for a while - after 6 months I went to my GP who referred me to a specialist, BUT fortunately for my blushes, it suddenly became comfortable 1 week before my hospital appointment! (at about 9 months pp)

mumtosomeone · 23/08/2005 07:43

ok.
Sure it will all sort its self out!

shhhh · 24/08/2005 17:19

angie0201, my dd is 14 weeks and I have been the same as what you described. I'm lucky in the fact that dh has been brilliant and not pusht at all and has allowed me to "do things" when I am ready.
Like you I was concerned and I spoke to my doc who is brilliant. She told me it's normal following stitches and that it should get better. She told me if it didn't then in a few circumstances the stitiches can be redone (ouch ).
She did however prescribe me a HRT cream that will help to lubricate on a daily basis (sorry if tmi) and the cream only needs applying once a week. I haven't used the cream yet as it interferes with condoms and I don't really want to go on the mini pill...I'm seeing how it goes over the next few weeks/months and then I will try the cream..It may be worth speaking to your doc. Like others have suggested lots of foreplay does help although sometimes this is where it ends ..........
HTH

paolosgirl · 24/08/2005 17:24

I had the same sort of delivery - ended up having surgery a year after to remove scar tissue, so no wonder 'it' was so effing sore! No amount of lubricating would have helped in my case.
It does get easier with time....I'd say don't force it, cos the more you do, the more you'll tense up and the sorer it will be. A vicious circle really.

Flip