Is he cruel or am I just conceited? :-( WWYD?

[NotThisAgain]

I'm not a troll, but have name changed because I'm very recognisable on here.

I'm often here because I tend to choose the wrong kind of man for me.

I've been with someone new who was always nice to me, or so I thought. However, he seems to feel the need to keep dropping things about other women into the conversation. Details about other people he's slept with, and unkind things like his friend asked him why he 'left' his ex for me (which he didn't, actually). He likes to leave me with the impression that he is surrounded by other beautiful women who he could be with in a heart beat, for him I'm the best so he 'chooses' me.

So yesterday he did it again and I said to him that I think it's out of order for him to try to knock my confidence because all my other boyfriends considered me very attractive and didn't ever make me feel inadequate about this. When I said this he seemed to get annoyed and turned on me saying who do I think I am, there are plenty more women in the world who look better than I do......including Shakira for example

Surely this is not a normal way to behave? I don't think I'm conceited but I was trying to stick up for myself because I don't like to be made to feel inadequate.

Now I just feel bloody confused

Well, he is a very strange individual. Apparently he's sorry for what he said - he didn't mean it. But people who love each other do say things that hurt each other sometimes. He obviously has a different idea of love from me!

Oh yes, and

'I don't understand......there must be someone else, right????'

Hahahahaha
Of course. It can't be HIM can it?

Watch out for flowers arriving etc, or him having sudden crises only you can sort out...

Actually the quickest way to get him off your back may be to say, yes there is someone else...

Say there are plenty more men in the world who look better than he does... including [insert name of preferred celebrity]

People who love each other may say things that hurt each other sometimes, by mistake. But if they actually care, they apologise, and try never to say something hurtful again. (And I don't mean once you've dumped them. They're on a whole different agenda then.)

See, he thinks he's chosen you from all the wonderful women hanging on his every word, because you are "the best". What he doesn't realise is that you choose not to be with him because he is not the best for you. He doesn't get a say in it.

It's very insulting, in my admittedly prickly opinion, to assume you wouldn't dump Mr Wonderful unless some other man was pulling your strings. Like a woman can't be on her poor little helpless lonesome.