At 16 were you allowed to shag at home?

[coventgarden]

I wasn't allowed boyfriends staying over at 16 through to 19 when I left home (it is complicated.) I am a bit and surprised how many people think it is okay to allow their 16 year old child to have sex in their house and it is making me think what I will/should do when mine are that age. I am also wondering why I wasn't allowed and can only assume they didn't like my boyfriend (well I know they didn't) and were worried I would get pregnant.

I left a note to stay I was staying at his house that night as I couldn't ask/tell them.

All very strange and complicated.

No! I was only allowed to actually sleep in the same bed as boyfriend when I was pregnant. At 39

Yes I was allowed. Mum preferred me to be safe at home than god knows where, and also wanted us to be open with each other, so there'd be lots of trust in our relationship and so I could feel I could tell her stuff and confide in her if I needed her.

It worked v well and she always got on v well with my bfs. I hope to be the same with my daughters.

My long term bf at that time lost our virginity together when we were 17. VERY happy memories

No but I was at 18, about right, I reckon.

I wasn't. Boyfriends were given the spare room, and I always had a spare room at their houses.
Used to shag during the day when all parents and siblings were out, but no way would I have snuck around during the night.

DH and I were living together and we didn't share a room at my parents until we were engaged. Then they got us a lovely kingsized bed to go in my old room and nice new bedding

No way would I allow my children to have sex in my house, but DS is only 2 so it's not a pressing issue for me just yet!

My nieces & nephews do/did. I was quite surprised at my sibs, given the peculiar upbringing we had, but they said they don't want to think of their kids having to shag in a ditch on the way home. Wise & reasonable, I feel!

Think it's a resounding NO! I was only allowed at 18 because he was a serious bf. I still put stops on it now and make them sleep in the spare room and I'm parenting myself at 48!

No, but I wasn't 'at it' by 16 so that would prohibit it! I wasn't allowed boyfriends to stay, though I would stay at my boyfriend's every now and then. (Pretty long term by teenage standards.)

no one gave a toss what I was up to but ewww at shagging with parent in house

mine don't yet and are 16 and 18 almost

No. Wasn't even allowed to share a bedroom with boyfriend I was practically living with in my 20s. Only marriage would have made a difference!

I wasn't shagging until 17. But no, I wasn't allowed at home. Used to go to his house instead, as his parents (now my in-laws) didn't mind.

MIL did get a bit embarrassed though when the neighbour mentioned that the blinds on the bedroom window didn't block out what was going on when the light was on inside.....

were you busy extruding your namesake mitochondria!!?

I didn't bother as I shared a room with my sister. We just used to hang out at (my now DH's) house and had sex in his bdroom. His parents weren't bothered in the slightest what we did.

Thinking about it, the staying at boyfriend's wasn't until around 17/18. I didn't share a bed with a boyfriend at my parents until I was around 23, and we were very long term. Still felt weird.

My mum let my sister. And mum is very sensible.

I was a total square and waited until I was much older.

I wasn't allowed but then my parents buggered off every weekend on their boat leaving DB and I home alone..
Course we had regular parties, trashed the house and I shagged half the boys school

sorry, been asleep(emergency nap as 3 mo has decided to double her wake-up times in the night...let that be a lesson to you 16-19 yo's...)
..and the answer is NO. The only thing i shagged at home was one of my toys...and i'm only kinda joking. oh god. mind you that was many yrs before the age of 16. ahem

ha ha me and my dp were staying at my mum and dad's for the first time some yrs ago(i was in early 30s then) and my mother complained about us going into the BATHROOM together in the morning(even tho we were sharing a bed in her house). she said it wasn't appropriate. how weird. mind you, we did have a shag in the shower

Do we Pauline??
no birds in mine sadly

My DH and I had to sleep in separate rooms at my parents house even after we had been living together for years.Only once we got married (when i was THIRTY NINE!) were we allowed to share a bed.

i was allowed just after i turned 18 with my boyfriend of six months. [same bed]
my mum later said that the only reason she didnt let my previous boyfriend stay in my bed [we were together 2 years, 15-17] was that she didnt really think he was that mature! and she didnt like his dad
we didnt shag when my mum was in the house anyway, yuck. we just liked sleeping next to each other.

i had a good discussion with my two eldest DDs [they are 16] about this last week.
once they are of legal age they have no restrictions of who they are allowed in their room [okay, if it was a 25 year old i might put my foot down] because its their house too, and they both give me a little money out of their wages each month as a 'rent' exercise. i like to treat them as adults, and and adult relationships and a healthy attitude to partners, sex and boundaries is a good thing to pass on i think? i've made it clear that one night stands are not welcome [i just dont want strangers in my house overnight, thanks] but comited boyfriends who i have met [and vetted, ha!] are more than welcome.
its their home too.

that being said if any of them started smoking they would have to do it down the road. double standards ahoy!

Yeah I suppose you are right hulababy but my parents have been together since their early teens. when my mum got married she wasnt allowed to have sex until she was 21 and married off and had to be home at 10.30 every night!

I think thats mental and I am glad she has realised that thinks have changed a lot.

At 16 my mother let us, but me and now dh had been in a relationship for quite a while. I would not have been allowed any old boy in my room!

His dad point blank refused to allow us to share a room for a long time until I was pregnant. This was despite the fact that Mr. High Morals was shagging about with Christ knows how many women on the side.

I do have a point here (the sex/drugs/ prohibition thing) but I feel I am scrabbling for a handhold on it somewhat... it is there... I just can't express it very well.

I was most definitely not allowed to shag at home at that age. But saying that, precisely a year later, at the ripe old age of 17, I was coming home in the middle of the night off my head on E and trying to sneak upstairs to bed without waking my Mum and trying to explain why I didn't fancy roast dinner the next day. If my Mum had any idea what I was up to then, I think having sex with my boyfriend would have been the least of her worries..

Having said that I can't imagine letting my DD have sex in my house at that age. Yes it's legal. Yes they are going to do it anyway. But that doesn't mean I should embrace it. They are too young. End of.

I was 25 when I met DH. When visiting his parents (devout Irish catholics) I had my own room (for my comfort apparently) until we were married (at 31), despite living with each other for 5 years before. Now that is ridiculous.