Would you let your dh do this?

[emkana]

There is a possibility that dh could work abroad for six months, in that time earning vast amounts of money which would pay off the mortgage, pay for the extension we want to build, pay for a new car and a nice holiday... but during those six months we wouldn't see him at all, he wouldn't come home and we couldn't visit him. Our daughters are four and two. Would you do this?

hi sorry i havnt read this whole thread, but i heard a radio interview with subbies going to iran and the fees offered were basically danger money. Only your instinct can tell you if the risk is worth it to you family. I think its sad that the thread seems to say money is worth anything, it is not. Really. Good luck

No, couldn't manage job and ds at all well without dh, rather be poor than unhappy, even just for 6 months.

LIo,mamaged a job,home baby and dog for three years while dh away! (Nearly killedme though.)
Fio,no problem. Arguably your dh more at risk than my parents.My father works in a university and my mother teaches in an international school.

that is the only thing that worried me. We know people who have gone over to saudi and other middle eastern countires that are not 'publicised' in the news who get killed, chased at gunpoint, shot etc etc. then you see on mainline new channels of men getting shot doing quite innocent contracting work in the middle east. yes, we are only told what we want to be told on the news etc. and yes, alot of it is propoganda. But from my perspective and my husbands work it hasnt been advised for years, not months. As i say it might be just my husbands lkine of work but he is only an engineer;/designer too. i personally dont think it is worth it for money.

It is different if has to do it though and there is no other solution to making ends meet.

Iran just seems a bit unstable atm. esp with all this blowup over nuclear development that seems to be going on atm

I know my dh wouldn't do it - he couldn't bear to be away from the kids for that long. Does you dh want to do it, emkana?

I must say I am quite surprised how many of you have said yes, no brainer, etc etc. My dh is as involved in childcare as I am and tbh I think our kids would be truly devastated if he disappeared out of their world for 6 months. How could they possibly understand what was going on? They are 20 months and 3.8. i mean, there is no way I would leave them for 6 months - woudl any of you? I know that my kids are as attached to their father as they are to me. So this would be a no brainer - no way.

btw my response woudl be different if it was a shorter period or if fairly frequent visits could be made. But 6 months without sight....

It would be very tempting but dh could never leave the kids with no visits for this long and ds would be devestated if he were to. If visits were possible then yes but I wouldnt leave my kids for this long and i know dh wouldnt. When he went to Canada for a week on his own earlier this year, he found it difficult not seeing the kids.

This is a tricky one because of the safety factor..

My father did 2 years in Saudi when I was 3 and 4 for the same reason emkana is giving, ie to buy a house without a mortgage. If anything the absences made me closer to him. I was a real daddies girl! My mum had a lot of family support though, we lived with my grandparents while my father was doing this, do you have that sort of support emkana?

If my DH and I were in your position we'd do it, but only if we were convinced it was safe.

Um no, I would miss him too much!

His company is worth more than money to me.