New sofa arrived. Massive buyers remorse. Can anyone relate?

[sellotape12]

Hi, I’m literally 6 days postpartum and very fragile so I could be irrational. Our new sofa arrived yesterday after a 10 week wait. It’s in a bespoke fabric which I chose and supplied. I feel quite shocked at how much I don’t like it. Firstly, it is so much harder than the one that we tried in the shop over three visits. I assume this is just because it’s new? It has foam cushions with a light feather layer. And the colour is so much more shocking now that I’ve seen it in our living room. I pored over fabric samples but now it’s on a bigger surface area it just looks bright and shocking. It also no longer goes with any of the other accessories in our living room and just doesn’t look very holistic because it’s such an opinionated colour.

I just don’t know what to do. It cost me £2000 and I thought I would feel excited. Do I try to get it reupholstered? Do I just live with it for a few weeks? What do I do? I feel so low.

Congratulations on the new baby what you’ve gone through is epic and it takes so much time to adjust to this especially the sleep deprivation and hormones. I think just focus on you and the baby at the moment. Overtime I think you’ll get to love the sofa. Just be kind to yourself.

Don’t cry! I bet it’s nice

Maybe put something over the pink armchair to tone it down. Our sofa was firm to begin with then softened up

There’s absolutely no point uploading photos, because everyone is going to blow smoke up your arse and tell you it’s lovely even if they hate it.

You need to live with it for a while and think about changing other aspects of the room if you think they don’t go, and take it from there. Does your husband love it?

You’ve got a newborn. Cover it with a throw to keep it clean for now. See if the firmness goes once it’s been sat on for a while.

uncover it again in a few weeks and see how you feel.

No picture has appeared on this post, I'll try again

It'll be fine. If you get some cushions that marry it all together?

Congrats on the real new addition to the family 🙂. No doubt they will 'christen' the new sofa quite soon.

We had new carpets in our hall and living room ( at great expense 🙄🤥) once and our puppy at the time chewed a nice big hole in the middle of a stair... I felt like weeping

Is that just because your undercarriage in general is suffering from having just given birth, though?

I think a grass-green sofa sounds great, personally. We have a bright mustard-coloured one, and dark bluish-grey walls. Maybe you just need to find a wall colour that talks back to your sofa a bit?

I did this with my new living room carpet I spent £1000 on it and I absolutely hate it!
Chose it from a sample but seeing it in full it’s just horrible but im basically stuck with it as I can’t afford another £1000 to replace it.

Redecorate the room to suit the sofa

You should definitely cover it in throws anyway as your baby will be sick and / or leak poo on it almost guaranteed I’m afraid.

use throws and pillows to tone it down?

@sellotape12 when our sofa arrived I hated it, I was really shocked by how large it looked in our living room (rather than in the open area of the shop). Anyway I love it now, I think your eyes adjust as you get used to it. Hopefully the same will happen for you OP.

Have been there, but you can soften it by having a muted/pale throw (practical if you have children and babies anyway) and lots of scatter cushions. Give it 3 months to see whether you get used to it [post partum hormones to settle], and explore whether a change in wall paint colour, hang new wall art and/or a new rug that brings the sofa shade together makes it work better.

i bought my very first brand new sofa last year after always having second hand. The cushions were very firm initially, I went for the firmer of the two options as I didn’t want it to lose shapes and need puffing up all the time. To begin with it was very firm but now, 18 months on, it is so comfy. If you liked the show room ones there is a good chance yours will soften up to that in a few months. A sofa is a big investment and meant to last decades so this is just the breaking in phase.

As for colour, if you liked it when you ordered it there’s a good chance you’ll soon love it. You’re in a nesting phase and your nest has been disrupted at the wrong time. If you really hate it there are plenty of throws and covers that you can use to change how it looks.

If it really isn't comfy you might be able to soften it up with a sofa topper and some lovely squishy cushions like this...

https://www.anthropologie.com/en-gb/shop/hybrid/cotton-printed-sofa-topper

I did something similar once with a Laura Ashley sofa. However behind one of the back cushions there was a shallot-sized bleach stain, so I made a lot of this and returned it. I’ve also had carpet which I spent a lot of time choosing and then when it was laid, I initially thought it was awful. However I got used to it and now love it. In summary, you’ll learn from this - and give it a bit of time. Failing that, throws

I am sure it will soften up, i feel for you, I have hated my sofa for the past 5 years, really want it gone but I am also that kind of person who uses things to death and struggle to justify getting rid!

I know how you feel OP. I hate my 2 sofas. They are totally wrong for my living room, the cats have savaged them and every cat hair sticks to them.
Ive lived with them for 5 years and Im getting shot next year.

We had the same thing with the most expensive sofa I've ever bought - a leather chesterfield which was like sitting on concrete. The after sales people advised jumping up and down on the seat cushions to soften everything up . Might be worth a try ( if you feel up to it obviously!)

Oh bloody hell. I'm waiting for a 3 piece suite delivery, I've waiting so long I can't remember what it's like really and I am fully expecting to hate it as I loathe anything new 🙄

Where can you get bespoke sofas made? That sounds amazing!

6 days pp I cried at everything- give it a few weeks and I'm sure it'll be your favourite thing. I ordered a massive orange chair 8 months pregnant- shock of my life when it turned up, I'd completely forgotten about it and the newborn promptly vomited all over it!

I disagree with everyone saying get neutral throw/ cushions as that will make it stand out more. Tone it it with more greens or other bright colours to make it stand out less.

I love the sound of a bright green sofa!

It's going to be less comfortable atm because you have just had a small person exiting your body. What it will do however, is not collapse roughly twenty minutes after sitting on it for the first time because it's just squishy foam with no support, leaving you with the feeling that you're sitting on the frame.

Colour? Green is great. It's a similar green to your plants, so go with the plant-vibe. You've got a pink chair, so that's just like having flowers in a garden; You could make it less of a shock (and wise with post partum bleeding, baby puke, massive nappy filling emergencies, dropping the first vaguely warm drink you've had in a week all over it) by chucking a throw over it for a while, until you've adjusted more to all the other things you're enjoying/not enjoying/have no idea how you feel about them because it's all so much with a new baby. Cheap cover, maybe one from Amazon in a paler green, a suitably soft, cheap and washable fleece or other blanket on top and you'll realise in time that you love it.

I bet it looks great.

It sometimes takes a few days to get used to a new colour and furniture. Give it some time. Yo7 have my sympathy though.