The all-new buyers/sellers waiting room (continued x5) thread!

[BirthdayRainbow]

Hi I took the liberty of starting a new thread as I couldn't answer on the last one.

@kirinm I am glad you've decided I pull out. I wanted to suggest it but didn't want to stress you out. I hope the next house you view is the one and it all goes smoothly.

@ingkir I have just read all the search results. My son has helped with a couple of questions, I've left a message for my friend to help with something else and I am waiting for the solicitor to ring me back as they've attached someone else's details to the end of the paperwork 🙄. I'm distinctly unimpressed as of course potentially someone has mine and the whole stream could be wrong. Looking at what the emails say it is likely it is a one off but I needed to tell them. The receptionist was going to put me through to the solicitors secretary until I said why I was ringing. Already over the time of when she said she'd be back.

I still have a few things outstanding but I won't exchange until I have answers so I'll wait it out.

Can I just tell someone I've been crying on and off all day due to the stress. I'm here on my own and no one knows. I feel so lonely and alone and don't know what to do. I need to move. Being in this house is making me very unwell.

Some positive movement here. I got the survey back on the house I'm buying and it just listed what I was expecting considering it's a doer upper, no expensive surprises.
My buyers got their survey back too and tried to negotiate £3000 off based on things it raised that might fail in the future, basically all the disclaimers surveyors put in to cover themselves. I told the estate agent to tell them no this morning and got a call at the end of the day saying there was no pushback and they will stick to the original price. I am very relieved!

I’m sorry to hear that. It’s horrible. Hang in there 💐

(Hugs) @BirthdayRainbow its so stressful. Its why we are still in our house 30.years later. We keep saying we will move and can never summon up the courage.

That's good @ingkir

My DS had to pull out after a survey. A potential can of worms sadly, but I guess that's what you pay for. No point in renegotiating as he didn't have a clue how to put a price on things so pervasive and if he'd bought there he would have always been worried about what next he would find.

He's waiting now for the chain to come together on his latest accepted offer. Then he will instruct his surveyor again. He fully appreciates he will have the usual red flags pop up due to lack of surveyor testing. He's anxious though after last time - he was absolutely gutted.

Sending you much love @BirthdayRainbow , is there anything nice that you can do to care for yourself tonight?

This too shall pass xxx

There really should be a better system! The conveyancer who handled the purchase, was unbelievably useless all through and delayed exchange because he ‘lost’ the signed copy of the site plan and tried to say that we hadn’t signed and returned it. ‘Misfiled’ apparently.

I have no idea why it took all day to complete on three properties. The bottom of the chain was complete before midday, our sale completed in the afternoon and our purchase at 5.15. Surely it should be instantaneous in this day and age.

The only good thing was that we sold for more the second time than we did the first, but we had to find money for the removal company to come back the following day with our stuff and we had to pay for a night in a hotel.

@BirthdayRainbow I spent so many days crying on and off over this sale and purchase and I was unwell on Monday with all the last minute stress.

I'm sorry. I totally get it. I was on the verge of a breakdown a couple of weeks ago when we lost our purchase and our buyers were putting all sorts of insane demands on us. In the end I just told them - fine, pull out then, we'll relist in the spring. And they actually apologised and pulled all their extra demands. We"ve found something else which I don't LOVE but does tick most boxes. My point is - it IS such a stressful time. Try not to be too hard on yourself. You will get there in the end. Even if "there" isn't exactly what you originally thought it was.
What is the latest happening with you?

Thank you everyone. I'm so embarrassed that I need strangers to make me feel less lonely but I don't feel we are strangers.

I have a medical condition which has meant this emotional stress has caused physical problems and I've been in pain for most of the last day and a half.

There is no news as my solicitor didn't ring me and they were shut this afternoon.

I absolutely will pull out and need to assume I'm viewing houses next week. I've already had one agent say if I start again it will be 2-3 months but that's missing the point. I won't be held to ransom. My offer was accepted in July. I've sold my house three times in two months and the vendors vendor went back on their word and has cost me over £20k already. I'm moving hundreds of miles, on my own and have to somehow get the animals looked after while I do a ten hour round trip. And I haven't told my ex who owns part of the house too.

@BirthdayRainbow - just wanted to add my virtual hugs too.
You've already been through a lot and survived all that crap - you will get through this too, and be smiling at the other end.

I really hope so @EagerHouseMover . I've been looking tonight at houses and my friend will go through them and get rid of ones she thinks aren't right. She knows the areas better than me and will potentially view for me, as will my son. I'll never ignore my gut again.

Ah sorry you're feeling rubbish @BirthdayRainbow . Feel for you.It really is a brutal process. I was in tears last night because my solicitor had been her usual charmless self talking at me.
Today I got a phone call from her at 2pm saying my buyers solicitor was just waiting for deposit funds to come through them he'd exchange. Of course nothing happened. So it goes to the wire tomorrow with my vendor saying she'll pull out tomorrow if we don't exchange.
Question for those at the bottom of the chain. When do you have to pay your deposit? Days before exchange or the day you're exchanging? Seems strange this hadn't already been done.

When my DD bought last year she paid the deposit to her solicitor during the week before exchange.

Update from me: still no exchange on our purchase 🙃

Vendor eventually agreed to a drain survey after refusing the first one we organised.

Good news, property is connected!
Bad news, vendor had to call up the water Co to get the property added to billing (as vendor hadn't paid a water bill in over 7 years) Which, understandably they didn't want to do for fer of areas.

The EA had to get the vendor in to go through the process step by step with them but finally got through and asked the right questions.

Now just waiting for the wayer company to accept our survey as evidence and then send out a new bill. Once our solicitor receives a copy of that bill we can exchange.

Seems like one step forward two steps back and all this time we are living with my parents (very challenging environment for me) with three under 4s. It's so draining. We've been trying to buy this property since May. I'm exhausted .

It's no one's fault really, just a combination of elderly vendor, their shitty solicitor, our usless solicitor and one very old cottage.

I still have hope we'll be in for Christmas 🎄

Things still moving at a glacial pace here. It’s driving me mad. I HATE this bit where you’ve had an offer accepted and you have accepted an offer, but actually that means sod all because anyone can change their mind/decide to be a dick/insist that you randomly do totally unnecessary things, at any time. Such a stupid system.

Thanks @Feelingstrange2 . That's what I thought should happen.

@getamoveon2024

I can't see an alternative when someone is spending well over a quarter million and signing up to a 25 year loan. It's such a worry, so much hassle and very stressful but people have to be able to pull out for good reasons, so that always gives an option for people pulling out for no good reason.

I remember a few years ago there were going to be sale.packs preparwd by the vendor.and including searches and a survey, but the searches became outdated immediately and everyone wants an independent survey, so I think that's where we ended up with just an EPC left!

I do think the agents could give more detail on what's included at the marketing phase. Back when we bought here 30 years ago the lounge would be fully described and say things like "carpet, light fitting, curtains and curtain rails". If the vendor was potentially taking things it might read "Curtain rails. Carpets, curtains and light fittings available by separate negotiation" .

I think the clarity was useful even if it perhaps doesn't save much time.

We've had quite a lot going on with the sale but nothing has come on the market to view. Resigned to the fact that's probably it for the year and just hoping we at least find something before we exchange or complete so we know renting will be short term.

We had our offer accepted yesterday! Yay....now the really stressful part starts!

I had to fill in all these details for the solicitor's forms so it would be easy to migrate them to the EA's site as well, I'd have thought.

Congratulations! You never know, it might not be stressful… fingers crossed! The house I’m selling now was a dream when I bought it. Sellers were lovely. We offered a price, they accepted it, and we just proceeded through the steps without arguments and completed at the agreed price. So you never know!

Agents have been to take photos of mine. It was bloody hard work over days but I think I staged it quite nicely so I’m looking forward to seeing the pics. Hoping for some early viewings as they have people on their books looking for a property like ours, and I think our price is quite competitive. But I do know it’s a shit market so I’m prepared to the long haul!

Yet again my heart sinks. Our buyers are being made to use Muve, who are absolutely appalling. The buyer told them to take action 11 days ago. When she complained they have now said they will allocate a lawyer today. A simple sale, empty house to first time buyer is so far running since June. Not due to us. Not due to the buyer but the absolutely dreadful Muve. Avoid them if you can.

Ooh very excited - just received the Report on Title to read (over 40 docs!). Also told our buyer about the potential planning application next to us and they (fx'd) seem ok with it so full steam ahead - yippee :-)

Exactly where we are. 20 months in, one buyer who disappeared after 5 months, and now new buyers won't agree to have a survey done until everything else (searches etc) is done. Apparently this is the new normal. What annoys me particularly though is I've been asking about the survey for over 3 weeks and the estate agent kept saying oh yes wont be long, next week, I'll get in touch etc., and then finally yesterday said well its normal not to have a survey done until they are sure they want to proceed. We agreed to take the house off the market so they can fanny about for 6 weeks and now can only hope we'll have a decision by Christmas.

I’ve had my enquiries from the buyers solicitor today, only 3, but all things I don’t understand relating to the land registry.

My purchase is hardly moving because of Barclays. I only chose them for the rate & had an initial appt where I needed to verify ID. I need a second appt to submit proof of income & finalise the application, they've not sent me a link to upload any documents & the mortgage advisor is not responding to emails. I rang today as I’m fed up & he is in work, just ignoring me it seems. Can I apply elsewhere or will that affect my credit? I just want an offer in place.