Still hate my new home after 16 months

[Mumof52]

I moved 16 months ago and the day I moved I regretted it! I hate the street hate the larger mortgage hate the fact lots still needs doing. I’m not sure I’ll ever settle here anyone else felt like this?

It’s all relative though, right? We sold for a little less than we bought for, but we also got money off our new house and that meant we also saved a bit on stamp duty.

The town we want to move (back) to is still selling well and, if anything, prices seem to have gone up there though.

Oh I totally relate to you! We had another house and then they decided to withdraw it from the market, so I kinda think this was a panic buy! If I could move the house I would be happy as we’ve got loads more space but I hate the road! I really want to knock opposite and ask them if I can pay to clean their car! It’s been declared off road since 2019 it’s awful and covered in green! I hate the road it makes me sad every time I arrive home! God I hope these rates drop and the market improves!
I also like you wonder if we will sell it! The thought of staying here for years makes me so unhappy.
I agree with you totally location is much more important than house!
Good luck!

Thank you I do try but then I just can’t seem to block out the road!

I hate the road it makes me sad every time I arrive home!

Same, same! I used to get this burst of happiness when we turned onto the road of out old home. It was this lovely, warm feeling. Here, I just feel gloom descending the nearer I get. We needed to move because we'd outgrown the old house, but God, I wish we'd stayed in the town.

Good luck to you too. I hope you manage to sell.

@Mumof52 can you move your desk so you can’t see the road when you WFH? Reconfiguring rooms so you can eg have a desk overlooking the back garden would be cheaper than the move?

Funnily enough I just said that to my husband this morning! Thank you I just find it so antisocial!

Oh totally I was always quite proud of my old road and where we lived it was a new build in a no through road the grounds were immaculate and the majority of people kept their homes beautifully. It’s an awful feeling it makes me so sad. I actually wish we could turn the clock back! My neighbour next to me has renovated his whole house but his drive is also an eyesore there’s loads of vans I literally wish I could go back on a daily basis!

But you could move anywhere and have someone put an old banger on the drive opposite or have a man live next door that has a man and van business.

Unless you live in a detached with land, some things you just have to swallow.

With respect though, I'm not sure the things that are bugging you would bug many others to the same extent. I'd get it if the neighbours were loud and antisocial, or there was more crime than you anticipated. Or a permanent infestation nearby etc. but cars and vans are part of todays society.

Having said that, can you afford a similar house in a road you prefer? If so, I'd cut your losses and move. But be realistic, you may just swap that issue with another, unless you have a lot more money to spend.

Me. We moved after 2.5 years. I grew to hate it.

Also, I'll be giving my house a clean when we move but only to an extent; a quick hoover and dust. I have 3 kids and my priority in the days leading up will be packing and sorting the family out. I'm saving my effort and annual leave to clean my new house.

Why did you spend days cleaning your old house?

@RunningThroughMyHead Oh I agree I am quite picky but there’s no need to live like slobs! A bucket of water and a sponge cost nothing really and would make a massive difference! Also a broom to sweep and tidy again not a lot of money! I would be more than happy to pay to get the car cleaned and even sweep up and weed myself! The vans unfortunately I realise I can do nothing about!
I think the interior of the house I could live with whilst we gradually get it done if I didn’t hate the street quite so much!

OP, a couple of my friends have neighbours who blare the radio or have shouty friends round in the garden for drinks all summer. That’s very intrusive and difficult to avoid unless windows are closed all summer, yuck.

I think if you can do what is in your control to minimise you seeing the cars, then you might also feel more in control and settled overall. Can you make a back gate and leave by that most of the time? As well as moving furniture around not to look at the car

You say your house has lots of space, would it be viable to rent it out and you rent something smaller in a preferred area?

The costs might balance out and you would be happier! In time you could sell.

I know I’m incredibly picky 🤣 but it’s so antisocial!

Plant the wrong kind of bamboo and you'll never sell the house.

@Purpletractor I hope you’re happy in your new home. Did it ever get easier in those 2.5 years or did you just absolutely hate it that whole time? Everyone says oh give it time but I kinda feel after 16 months I really have given it time!

@Mumof52 i didn’t hate it when we bought it. It ticked lots of our boxes. The boxes it didn’t tick were; it wasn’t detached and the garden was much smaller than we would have liked. We wanted to make some changes and spent ££ on an architect.
In the end we realised that it didn’t matter how much money we spent on it, it was always going to be a semi with a small ish garden…..and our budget allowed for something we liked more.

I’m still cross with ourselves for buying our house nearly seven years later. We had a lovely 2 bed flat which we could have realistically stayed in a lot longer after DD2 was born.

I can spend weeks deciding on a new moisturiser for my face but a house we were like yeah that will do after two viewings! 😂

Do you mean the noise of the road? Put on music you love in the background at nearly all times. Just loud enough to drown it out. Make it a feature of the day to choose something you are really in the mood for first thing in the morning and when you get back from work.

At night, maybe play white noise. I did that when I went on holiday with a friend who snored. After a few sleepless nights I just plugged in 8 hours of continuous white noise.

I have never understood the pressure to do this. I spend ages umming and ahing about a dress but estate agents want you to hand over half a million pounds after two 5 minute viewings. I hate that pressure.

I was just saying to DS1: when you buy a car now, you can often get an extended test drive for a few hours or overnight. Mattresses have 100 day trials. We should get to live in potential houses for a month 😀

(yes, I know, impossible!)

I didn’t know about buyers remorse but sounds like it’s common, I think sometimes we can get carried away with finishing a process and let our guard slip, like you wanted to buy a different house, then another and then you bought this in the end.
We live and we learn, getting a feel for the street is very important for me too, good luck OP with whatever you decide.

Ah ok. Yes mine ticked boxes but just wish I could move the house!